Would you consider it disrespectful if a cousin used a family name for their baby that your own child already has?

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I feel like middle names being family names, and repeating for more than one individual within one family are very common & historically the norm

I would have different feelings if someone took my child’s first name and made it their kids middle name tho lol

Not disrespectful in my opinion.

I think you sound extremely selfish? It’s not your name you can’t just claim it and be mad, this is gross, no wonder they don’t have a lot to do with you

Is the great grandmother also your cousins great grandmother? If it is, and I mean this with no offence I swear, but I think it’d be self centred to them claim her name as your own that no one else can use when she has however many grand/great grandchildren who may have admired her. If you wanted to keep a name unique it shouldn’t have been a family one. If I ever have a girl she’ll have the same middle name as her cousin (my cousin and I’s grandmother) and I think it’d be cute for them to have that in common! Again, i don’t mean to sound like a dick or confrontational I’m not the best at wording things🤦🏻‍♀️

Not disrespectful, especially since it’s a family name. Your cousin also has a connection to whoever said relative was/is.

My bonus daughter has my mother in law’s name as her middle name. My husband and I just had a baby and named her first name after my mother in law. I don’t see the big deal, especially since it’s a middle name.

If it was your kid’s first name and they wanted to use it as a first name it’s a little weird but you used it as a middle name so it’s totally fine for them to use it especially since it’s a family name.

No mean intent but like others say; no name have rights to them. They might have a relationship with great grandparents as well.

I don’t think it’s a big deal for middle names.

My son and my nephew both have my dad’s name as their middle name.

I have three cousins name after my grandfather name. It’s pretty common in Italy to do that. No one of them seem to care to have the same name. They also live in the same town.

How do you think family names become family names? My father passed away. I gave my son his middle name so they could share that. My sister had kids and I wouldn’t have batted an eye if she also did this.

Nah, there are four of "me" in my family lmao (first&middle). The name came first from my great grandmother > grandmother > second cousin > me.

It’s a middle name it’s really no big deal ?

My son has the same middle name as his cousin which is his grandfather who died. My daughter has the same middle name as my mil and sil. I like tradition.
Also if my cousin chose the same name as my kids I would not be upset either simply because I havnt seen her in 18 years. Be different if it was my brother or bil.

I have my grandma's middle name and my son has my dad's and my uncle's middle name

my little one has the same middle name as my partners grandma, mam and sister, so if when his sister has kids she also wanted to use it i wouldn’t mind at all xx

My baby girl and one of my cousins (she's 6 and my baby is 7 weeks) have the same middle name. My cousin loves it! It's my great grandma's name on my dad's side

My brother and my cousin have the same name and all of the women on my mom's side have the same 1st part of a double barreled 1st name....all 6 of us. I have never understood the issue with sharing family names. I've also never understood the "confusion" argument.... we're all individual people who share a name- no one is getting us confused.

Says a lot when someone misreads your post, makes an accusation, and then instead of correcting themselves and apologizing, just blocks you so you can no longer see any of the other responses in that thread. Just saying.

It’s a middle name. Who cares?

I personally don’t find this disrespectful at all. Using a family name feels like a way of honoring someone we all share, and I don’t see why only one person or one branch of the family should be able to do that.

My cousin gave her son my father’s name as a middle name after he passed away, and I felt deeply honored that his memory would live on in that way. I’m now expecting a boy myself and plan to use my father’s name as a middle name for my child too. This may be different, but to me, that shows how a name can be a shared tribute rather than something anyone owns.

Everyone can feel differently about this, but I don’t think anyone has exclusive rights to a family member’s memory or to honoring them through a name

Our oldest is named after my father's grandmother (my great grandmother) has my MIL middle name - my cousins middle name

Our youngest has my mother's middle name - my SIL middle name & my husband got to name her bc I named our oldest

My SIL used both names I might of wanted to make our 2nd daughters middle name but I wound up liking the way Rhae-Lynn sounds

I wouldn't be upset if someone in my family named their kid after mine though. I took my great grandmother's name from all my 4 cousins who probably would of liked to name their kids that (when or if they do.. I'm the middle to youngest & so far no one besides me has kids still) but my 2nd cousin named their dog after our great grandmother 🤣🤣🤣 & that was before I named our oldest. I always had her name picked out.

But my moms BEST FRIEND back in 1995 named her baby what my mom was gonna name me.. so she had to put that as my middle name (very angry) she literally stopped talking to her & never spoke to her again! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Idk what's funnier the fact she still called me by my middle name all my life until I was 16 & got my 1st job. My boss was like "your legal name is Lauren.. no like thats your first name.." I said "what?!" 🤣 it was Alexis & I was definitely a Lexie but I've gone by my first name since 16 & I'm 30 now so I couldn't imagine going back lmao. I had an apiphiny where I wanted to go by my first name & would tell everyone to call me Lauren. But now only my family can call me Lexie lol

Tbh I feel like that’s a risk you take naming your kids after family members. We don’t do family names so I’ve never run into this issue.

it's a big problem and not really a big problem at the same time my son has his dad's middle name and his Grandpa's middle name and then his great granpas to they all have the same middle name but he has two middle names,

I can understand, if it makes any better this is how I did this so in case I didn't want them to have the same name as a family member I just changed the spelling instead of lucas i did lukas if u know what i mean

I would say even if it was the first names, it would be ok since it’s a family name. Especially if it’s a kind of a distant relative.
My son and my nephew share the same first name and no one cares

Middle name is not as big a deal as a first name. I would probably be kind of annoyed especially if it’s a unique name, but at least it is a middle name

I think it’s cute because one day they will realise and love that they have the same middle name!

My cousin has the same first name as me too and shes a couple years younger. It never mattered deeply although it did get brought up more than once kinda laughing about how her mom “stole” my name but oh well we all lived. I think a middle name wouldn’t even bother me one bit-i mean it doesnt cause many ppl in my family have the same middle name as me too. I think your great grandmother would feel honoured that the new generations want her name and personally id be annoyed if i knew my family was gatekeeping my name. I would humble the people telling you to be angrier about this honestly cause you do not own your great grandmothers name and this is not about you guys. They have every right to use their own ancestors name for their child and I think it’s a bit entitled to think otherwise in my opinion. Imagine putting this negativity on a pregnant woman just for wanting to honour the family 💀 kinda pisses me off a bit not gonna lie lol she has bigger things to worry about.

No. Names are names and anyone can use any of the. No one has copyrights on a name. Save maybe Elon Musk and some of his kids, X Æ A-Xii and Techno Mechanics. 😂 Joking, sort of.