First night stay in hospital
So ive recently moved to the Torbay area and found out that my partner cant stay overnight with me. This scares me a little. The midwives have assured me that they are always around and never to feel like im asking too much of them but I still cant help but feel scared about being by myself that first night.
I know I will be in a ward with either 2 or 4 other women in the same situation which is a little bit more comforting but as a first time mum going in for a C section it worrying.
What was people's experiences at Torbay Hospital like for their first night?
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my first night was okay ish. the midwives were horrible to me. i was crying every night and i just wanted to go home but they insisted that i stayed. i just didn’t feel comfortable at all. as a first time mum i was struggling with everything and one night i asked for help with feeding and the midwife said “what do you want me to do🙄” and it just really knocked my confidence :( xx
I really struggled staying the nights on my own and actually ended up discharging myself. I had an emergency c section and stayed 2 nights before I was adamant I needed to go!
I don't know where you live but I am under the impression that Exeter hospital does allow partners to stay so it might be worth asking. I'll definitely be doing that if we have any more.
I was really nervous about it but it was actually fine. I found the next morning when the partners arrived the vibe on the ward changed and I could hear a couple having an argument etc so I was actually pleased there were no random men around through the night. I had a c section and found the midwives really helpful and one in particular sat with me for ages helping me feed and they were generally lovely. (our second baby we had to go straight to special care so different scenario) x
Honestly I had a fantastic experience with torbay, midwives were always on hand and very friendly to me and the rest of my family. My LO was 6 weeks early so we ended up having to stay in the scaboo unit after the first couple of days but honestly everyone was amazing when I went.
I was glad that partners weren’t aloud to stay tbh. My partner needed the rest after watching me have my section and it meant he was fresh and ready to help with the next day. I also didn’t like the idea of random men being in the same ward as me. Over the top I know but I didn’t like it. Don’t get me wrong I was petrified but I personally found the midwife’s lovely. My daughter decided to have a horrid poo everywhere and I just stood there and cried as I had no idea what to do I couldn’t move properly and still had my catheter in. But the team on that night couldn’t have been any kinder or more helpful if they tried. X
I had an emergency C-section 4 weeks ago and had a really positive experience. I was nervous about spending the first night alone too but the midwives were so helpful! Just don’t be scared to ring the bell for help - it’s literally what they are there for! I was able to go home the following evening so it was just the one night for me xx
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