Thoughts on letting people watch your child before they are of talking age?

Hi! My son is 18months and we have not had anyone watch him. Not once. Its hard to be honest. I miss date nights and seeing our mutual friends. We've had to learn new ways to have romance in our relationship so we dont feel like we are roommates. Luckily for us, we are best friends ans have lots in common. We've also had to talk to our mutual friends about activities we can do that our kiddo can come along with. Kids cant come to everything and we've had to learn to be okay with missing out on activities. That being said, for us its worth it. Id rather miss out on things, rather than spend a life time missing my son because son was careless.

We didn’t let our son get watched by anyone till about a year but when we need time together as husband and wife (not just mom and dad) we have a few people who watch him. Usually in our house where we can check in with the cameras and they provide plenty of pictures and loving! I will also add the few people who watch him are very close to myself and husband. I won’t send him to daycare till he can properly explain what happened who did it etc!

thjs is perfectly reasonable. I only let my mom watch her for a few hours at a time because she’s done the research on child development and gentle parenting and what not and is in complete aggreance with me on how I handle my kid. and she’s a saint to her grandbabies I know she will be parented the exact way I want when it comes to her. other family members not so much which is why I only trust my mom to watch her and my daughter lovesss spending time with her nana it’s a bond I want to foster. it’s not bad to be picky about who has alone time with your kid especially when they can’t tell you what happened yet. it is always better to be safe than sorry

- Yes! I 100% agree with all of you! Thanks so much for your input. It’s nice to hear I’m not the only extra “protective” parent out here lol.

I was a little vague in my initial post, but yes my feelings include all of the above. There’s a little FOMO, of course. I too feel it is worth missing out on adult activities to bask in every moment with my child. I also agree that mommy and daddy need their alone time as just husband and wife, which being completely honest my husband and I are still trying to find that balance… and yes I hope to be able to find at least one person I can trust fully to watch him. That is a blessing to have such a sweet mother and her and your child be able to have that bond. That is definitely the qualities I look for in our close family members to help make me comfortable for the future possibility of watching my son!

I hope you find even just one person so you and hubby can have a date night! it doesn’t have to be every week just even once a month being able to have alone time and eat at a restaurant without a toddler wanting to get up and run around will do you so good! I want every mother to have someone like my mom to help them out❤️ you’re a good mom for being picky and patient