What to do?
So, I recently, March 10th of last year, left my kids' dad after a 13 year on again off again toxic relationship. I recently started seeing someone. He's totally the opposite of what I'm used to. He's got a good job, his own apartment, treats me well, doesn't drink or smoke, and has his own car.
Here's my issue. For the past three years sexy time with my ex was more of a chore over something I enjoyed. I'm started to be ok in my skin again and want to reach the finish line. We have only done it twice. The first time he got hot half way through and just stopped. We then watched a movie until it was time for me to leave. This time we were fine until I said ouch. He then stopped because he didn't want to hurt me. Which is great but not great. We laid there, watched a movie, and he rubbed my back until I left. He said it's been quite some time and I know it's new but I'm going to lose my mind. We only see each other once a week.
How do I word to him that some pain is ok? If I'm really hurting I'll say stop.
I'm not asking for anything kinky just vanilla fun time.
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You gotta communicate, maybe take it slower and let it happen naturally, you seem a bit disconnected in your touches, so just explore and see what happens..get used to each other open up and talk
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