Working Mom vs. SAHM!

I think working moms have it harder I couldn’t imagine working all day and having to come home to mom and do all that I do in 1/4 of the time. Plus the mental load of worrying about your kids when they’re away from you and dealing with taking time off work or finding alternate care when they inevitably get sick from daycare or school. Being home is hard but I weighed my options and working wasn’t the best lol

Just tired in different fonts lol.

tired in different fonts. there’s pros and cons to each but being a parent in general is hard, i think the main thing that makes it harder for some is not having a village.

It’s just hard !

It was harder to be away from my kids as a working mom. To be without energy and stressed about shifting from manager to Mom and wife.

It is harder to be actively engaged and present as a steady and consistently calm presence as a SAHM. Being with your kids without the same breaks work offers intellectually and conversationally.

We each have different values which determine what is hardest to experience, but I think the sacrifice of staying with your kids comes with a lot more ish against you from family who thinks you're taking advantage of your husband or being taken advantage of, from society who places importance on income over nurturing, and from other women who consistently remind you to make an exit plan and project their issues and fears onto your relationship and lifestyle.

They're different stressors at play in each situation. I'm reticent to make a final determination on which is harder. I've been both so I know how I personally feel, but what you do is literally none of my business 🫶🏼

I work full time, bit I dont find it all that hard, my job is so easy and I can do it from home 3 days a week. So I get the chance to clean and meal prep during working hours, walking around the house with my laptop, answering emails and calls as and when.

It means the evenings and weekends are spent enjoying time with my toddler. I woukd find it so much harder bing a SAHM. But that is absolutely dowm to my job being as easy as it is.

Both the same 😁

This is such a dumb debate. I’m sick of seeing it. Neither are harder or equal. It’s entirely dependent on the individual mom. Some people are happier working and some people’s are happier being a sahm.

i honestly get frustrated seeing either side of the spectrum say “it’s harder” when genuinely just being a parent is hard enough without a stupid debate. leaving your baby, clocking in and out, coming back to parent, it’s hard.
being with your baby 24/7, never getting a moment, loaded up on chores and household priorities, that’s also hard. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'm tired all the time. I work full time and then come home and do all the mom stuff. Then the days that I have off from work and just do mom stuff those days are just as exhausting.

An especially difficult task for me is getting my kids to their activities at night and on weekends like swim meets, soccer, and now my daughter just started gymnastics 3 times a week.

My daughter is only 7 months so I don't have a lot of experience being a working mom just yet but so far I prefer working part time over staying at home. I enjoy the balance it brings to my life, I see other adults, I go into the city, grab my morning matcha, use my brain & come home to my baby.
That being said, I have an amazing support system so I'm not fulling running a house and family on my own outside of working. My partner is great and I have my mom with me. My baby is also a pretty good sleeper so I'm not dead tired all the time.

I’d say working mums as they still have to do everything stay at home moms do x

For me personally I think being a SAHM is more mentally draining and challenging, however it’s easier on my heart. But it’s all so personal to each person so there’s no answer that can be applied to the masses. I honestly very much dislike when people say that working moms do everything a SAHM does in less time because no you literally don’t, it’s impossible, and that’s okay. I mean unless you’re working from home or something but most working moms are not cooking and cleaning up after 3 meals plus snacks a day and not entertaining their child all day attending to their needs and doing the same tedious tasks on repeat all day long. Thats okay, it doesn’t mean it’s more or less hard but it’s different and shouldn’t be framed in that false notion to make one seem harder or easier

Why stir the pot? It's all hard!

Idk why every part of motherhood has to be on a scale. It’s hard no matter what you do. I’ve done both and I can say both have their challenges.

Both are hard, which someone personally finds the hardest comes down to them individually and a million different circumstances. Personally I work part time, which suits me as I feel I get a lot of the pros of working and also the pros of being a SAHM.

As someone who has a mix of WFH days, office days and days of not working and us currently on mat leave with my second. They’re all equal, all have their own challenges. Take my hat off to anyone working full time as a parent, parenting all day with no adult conversation, and juggling part time.

I personally found it a lot easier being a SAHM.

I got so much more quality time with my daughter. Had time to cook, clean, do activities etc I honestly loved it.

Now I work full-time, sometimes it honestly feels like I never get any time with my family, have much less time for cleaning, cooking, I'm always exhausted.

BUT that's me personally. Someone else might find being a SAHM harder for their own reasons and that's absolutely valid, we're all different.

I've done both. Being I had 1 baby at a time bc they are 5 years apart, I feel working is harder. The having to keep them on a schedule, make sure appointments are kept, they are brushed teeth, dressed & hair done by 7am M-F on top of coming home at 3pm 2 days a week & 6pm 3 days a week. Having to plan meals, make sure we make it to sports for my oldest, ensure they have summer care it all lays on me!!! So I don't wanna be mean lol. I was both. In my opinion parenthood is hard but I think working is way Harder. You work 8 hours then have to work again it's not a fun stay home vibe lol

It’s different kind of exhaustion and also depends on what your village/support looks like.
For me personally working only in school hours is the best of both worlds, I have no village so I get some respite from the kids, but also spend a lot of time with them.

We’re all just tired in the SAME font. TBH, we’re all just tired and that’s that. Stay at home moms never get to clock out, but nether do working moms, they get to clock out of their job to go to their next one basically. Stay at homes just never get to clock out in a sense physically from a job. It’s not a competition, we’re all working our asses off and we’re all tired. Neither of us are getting a break no matter what direction we’re going.

I think there’s lots of parents that would be happier staying at home - my partner for instance
And parents who do better outside the home

Being a stay at home parent for me was very tiring
Mentally draining
Being at work though helps distract my mind
But still tiring
And less time to do stuff once I’m home
So all in all both can have their pros and cons, just depends on you and your situation

It depends on the work life balance- it’s harder if you have a mentally and physically exhausting job and have to come home and parent without help throughout bedtime. It’s very mentally draining and tiring being a sahm all on its own though so if you get to be kid free and have an easygoing job or all adult related job that isn’t super taxing & get help at home it’s easier than sahm alone but it’s hard to really know