Hyphenated last name

If you are planning to get married anyway id just let dad have the last name to be honest.

I regret not hyphenating my sons last name. He’s now 15 months, me and his dad are still together but his dads entire side of the family do nothing but talk shit about me and tell me they want nothing to do with my son. Breaks my heart, we’re changing his name by deed poll later this year to hyphenate & the if we get married we’ll both hyphenate our names as well

Better to be safe than sorry tbh

Both my children have my last name. My partner and I are getting married but I will keep my name. His name is the middle name for our kids. I think in this day and age the idea of a man having default right to the family second name, is absurd.

I felt the same way, growing up I had a different surname from my mum and there always felt like there was this level of disconnect
ask him why it's so important the kids don't get your name? it's not like they're not getting his name too so I think reacting like this is very unnecessary. I don't know your relationship so I don't want to say leave or anything like that but if he's so stubborn about it that he won't sign their birth certificate, maybe it's best they get your name anyway - if the relationship unfortunately breaks down you won't be in the same situation as when you were a child.
my daughter's surname is hyphenated too as we're unmarried, we've decided when we get married we'll both have her name

Don't give up! I regretted not giving my name to my first two children when their dad is barely in the picture so for our last baby (second marriage) we hyphenated!

Don’t let you’re guard down! He said we’ll get married one day..that’s a future that is uncertain to me tbh. During my first pregnancy I told my partner I want to hyphenate & he agreed, when I gave birth him and his parents turned on me & said how I have no right to hyphenate his name and that he NEEDS to have his dads last name! Him turning on me & siding with his parents out of nowhere was all the confirmation I needed to know my child is t safe and that they could try to take him back to their own country at any point. It’s safe to say I left dad off the birth certificate & hyphenated his last name with my name first for my own security. I did the same thing with our daughter a few years later. Hun please understand that in 2026 a child carrying their dad’s last name is a privilege NOT A BIRTHRIGHT! The fact he’s gone back on what u both said & the babies aren’t even hear yet is enough to tell you that you need to make sure you have security measures in place

Our Daughters is hyphenated and if we get married mine will be hyphenated also, no problems all round. My Surname is rare: Figés needs saving more than Shipton so she's Shipton-Figés. Both families come together to create a new family, both names should be included.

My children are hyphenated. We were not married for my first but when we got married we both adopted the hyphenated name also so we all have the same. I didn’t want to risk if we broke up etc only having his name

My partner wasn't keen at first but both ours do have our last names hyphenated. If it's a big enough deal for him to give up parental rights by not going on the birth certificate I would be asking serious questions...

If it was that important to him he’d have married you by now. I’m on your side.

I’m a bit confused because if you are planning on getting married and you will drop your last name and you give your kids both surnames they still won’t have the same surname as you unless you double barrell as well.

My husband and I were married before our baby was born but I hadn’t changed my last name so he asked me MULTIPLE times if I wanted to hyphenate “just to make sure”. He can either marry you or hyphenate. You are allowed to share a last name with your children. Tell him you want to share a last name with your children so either her gives you his last name or you give the babies yours. This is so stupid, you aren’t taking away his last name in favor of yours, you’re just adding a name! If he threatens to not sign the birth certificate then you have no reason to give the babies his last name at all. Tell him if he doesn’t sign then you won’t hyphenate, you’ll give the babies your name only. If he refuses to sign the birth certificate he’s giving away his leverage. Don’t name your children after someone who won’t even sign a piece of paper saying he’s their dad.

He said me and him agreed that if I name the babies (first and middle) he automatically gets the last name…me and him never had that conversation because I would’ve said no and every time I say a name he say no we’re not naming them that so even if we did have that conversation he still have a say in what we’re naming our kids. I even said we didn’t have that conversation and he just said he’s not accepting the hyphenated name because it’s his kids and if he tells any other man about this they’ll say it’s ridiculous… then try to guilt trip me and say he gives me everything I ask for this is the only thing he’s asking for and I can’t even do that… I only ask for gas money sometimes and food …I don’t think I ask for much.

I’ll probably hyphenated but if he doesn’t sign then I won’t put his name on it at all. 🙄

My kids have my maiden name as their middle name.

Side question, what happens if one or both parents already have hyphenated names?