When do you know you're done having kids?
I am 38 years old, I have 3 beautiful children, my last baby was 20 months ago. It was c section and I remember saying god I never want to do this again. But now I do, I want another bundle of joy.
We can't afford another one, my body isn't sure it can carry another baby. My husband thinks I should have counselling, what would you do???
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That sounds like such a difficult place to be in wanting another baby but also carrying the memories of a tough birth and thinking about the practical side of things too. Those feelings can really pull you in two different directions.
It sounds like your husband might be suggesting counselling as a way to help you talk through those feelings and figure out what feels right for you, which could actually be a really supportive space.
Sometimes after a difficult birth or C-section, those experiences stay with us longer than we expect. Taking time to explore how you feel about it all could really help you make a decision that feels peaceful for you.
I feel like I want another but I know it is because I am going to miss having a baby, but I am not having another one. I have 2 girls and I know I can't afford another so I am just going to soak up as much of it whilst I can. I don't think you need counselling though, I feel like that is a bit extreme...
I wanted my daughter to have a sibling more than I could cope with another kid.
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