My exes girlfriend is pregnant
So my ex told me that his girlfriend is 4 months pregnant and I am struggling to process it.
Back story: my ex and I broke up initially when he left out of the blue when our son was 7 months old. He came back after having a fling with an 18 year old and then a few months later I found out that he was cheating on me with that same girl.
When they broke up, we would get together every now and then (dug my own grave, I know) until one day he told me that things were getting “more serious” with this other girl. I had no idea there was a girl that he was seeing. Nothing further happened until one day a year later, he randomly tried to kiss me. I assumed that he had split up with her but she was just travelling for a month. I told him to tell her and he refused. He introduced our son to her.
Now she’s pregnant, has no idea as to why we’re not together, no idea that he attempted to cheat on her whilst she was away.
The reason I am so hurt by this is because of the way he treated me after I had his baby. It was awful. He was so unsupportive and then left me on my own with no family or friends around me. I’m jealous that he gets to start again and I’m angry that she has no idea about any of this. I can hardly tell her. I’m trying so hard to be happy for my little boy to have a baby brother or sister but I am absolutely heartbroken by the news. I feel like all I’m seeing is babies, happy families and celebrations.
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This is a hard situation, it really is and there is no wonder you’re struggling to process it. The way I see this panning out is, he is most likely going to do the same as what he has done to you, to this other girl. He doesn’t sound very mature to be honest and so whilst he might look like he has a happy family for the first few months or so of the new babies life, that doesn’t mean it will last. For now you have your baby boy to focus on, who I’m sure adores you. You don’t have to have mum, dad and baby to be a happy family. Sometimes the happier families are actually just mum and baby. And who knows, it might be a while but you could end up finding someone else one day and creating more of a stable happy family with them! However, it is normal to feel the ways you do. The feeling will always be there but as time goes on you won’t feel it as much. It will all be okay mama!!
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