no screen mums!!

are you absolutely 0 screens household? my boy is 6mo and me and my partner agreed no screens till 3yo, but I'm a sahm and showering is HARD when I'm alone, I've been thinking about recording myself singing the songs he likes and showing it to him for being able to shower.
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I did no screen until 18 months. Between 18 months and 2 years old it was occasionally (when he was sick, or us burned out). After 2 he was having a little but more but it's not a daily part of our lives. Except now that I m pregnant and so sick, he is having much more. But I definitely plan to regulate this once we are stable with our new born. It's not a black and white answer 😊

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It’s up to you. But what I used to do was put her in the bathroom with me whilst I showered. Either strapped in to the baby chair when she was little, then in a travel cot with toys once she got bigger.

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We do no screens 99% of the time until age 2. My oldest is 4 and he does have daily screen time now (with boundaries and limits, of course) and I’m glad we waited until he was 2. My youngest just turned 1 and we are waiting until she’s 2 as well.

Exceptions were a road trip when my oldest was 18 months. And we will show a 3 minute song to clip their nails once it becomes a safety issue and other distractions don’t work.

I always just showered when babies were sleeping.

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In our house it's no tablets/phones. Tv is ok as long as it's low stim shows my son is 2.5 we did tv at 1 years old

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My 4yr old is allowed some TV before school and weekends
My 10yr old is allowed morning TV also and then a games consoles at weekends
(We are usually out at the weekend so this is NOT all day)
I wouldn't give a 6 month old a screen to watch- would put them in a bouncy chair in the bathroom with me and just be quick with the shower if you have to shower when noone else is around.
Maybe a Tonie box would be of interest? We don't have one but they look cute and can grow with the child. Although these are just ideas to avoid screens- no judgement whatever you do- just think about what's easiest for you and do that.

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We did no screens til 18 months and then slowly introduced even now she’s over 2 and has tops an hour a day (but usually only 3 days a week), I guess I’ve got used to not sat watching telly as much either! Only screen is tv x

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No screens for our daughter. If I have to shower while alone with her I just set up her Yoto player and give her all the cards, she’ll listen to her favourite nursery rhymes on repeat or a story or just change the cards around every 10 seconds. It’ll give me anywhere between 10 to 20 minutes. When she was younger I knew the words to a couple of her books off by heart and would narrate them out loud with silly voices and it kept her calm for a bit.

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Haven’t had my baby yet but we are planning no screens through toddlerhood, with the exception of some movies & low stimulation shows, but these will be put on with a purpose eg family movie night. I’ll also use my phone to video call family (my sister lives in Australia & I’m uk)😊

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Our exceptions were video calls to our friends and family and if we were visiting other people.

Even when the TV was on our kids were never that interested. I filled one of the bathroom cupboards with bath toys and our kids would just spend my shower time taking them all out of the cupboard. šŸ˜‚

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Honestly, we tried. I’m a PT stay at home mom and sometimes the only way I can keep my kid from climbing up me while I’m trying to make breakfast for us in the morning is to put on a show for 20 minutes. She’s 10 months. Half the time she doesn’t even watch it fully, but it’s distracting enough that I can cook without her getting hurt.

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Our 4yr old watches TV, more now that we have a new baby but we still try and limit it. As others have said, low stim shows, we never watch kids stuff on YouTube cos I find that wild. I mentioned on another post that I put the sleep timer on the TV so when it turns off it just turns off. He will find something else to do then.
We have an Amazon kids tablet for him too and he has a few games on it relating to the things he likes on TV (Numberblocks, Thomas the tank etc). This is always on airplane mode so he can't stumble onto YouTube etc or anything we don't want him to see. He watched a random Elmo video once and when it ended it went to YouTube and all sorts of crap came on so I took it off him but I couldn't get the Elmo video off the home screen and it kept going back to the other stuff 🤣 so that's when airplane mode was activated.
Obviously our baby doesn't watch anything and I will try and mimic what we did with our son which was limiting TV time and no tablets until she's older.

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Yep i do no screens too. I bring mine in the bathroom and put him on bouncer and sing to him! Rn he’s young so it’s fine, obvs Won’t work when he’s older

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I just shower after they go to bed

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We’ve just stopped screen time all together for my 3 year old! She can have 45 min a day if she has been good!
But other than this no screen time we’ve done this more so for her development

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Mine has not seen a show in her 19m of life. Try hard not to offer it and they won’t need it!

I bring her a long and did so when she was little. I sing and sing and sing and play calm music, let her watch me shower etc she has some toys in the bathroom now too

They just want to join in, they don’t want to be occupied.
Also, love all the comments; we do no screen time unless we do screen time 🤣

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ā€œScreen timeā€ to me implies phone/ipad and overstimulating content and games. I think a TV show every once in a while or even on just in the background is not a problem

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