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First time pregnancy , First time moms

My story..

My babies father and I planned our son. He left me 6 weeks before his due date. Our son is now 2 weeks old. Obviously it was not mutual, and it was not handled with care or responsibility. He walked away during the most vulnerable time of my life. He went back to his ex and was too coward to tell me. While pregnant, I caught him living with her at her mom’s house. I was on the phone with HIS mom beating on her door telling him to come out. He refused to and threatened to call the cops the entire time. He had been leaving me home alone overnight 35 weeks pregnant while saying he was staying with a “friend”. Of course this is my first pregnancy. He stole what was supposed to be the most exciting time of my life from me and turned into the worst heartbreak of my life. He NEVER missed an OB appointment. If he had to switch work days to be there he did. After he broke up with me before I caught him with her. He told me he would continue going to my OB appointments and that he would be there for our son’s birth. He said those things knowing how much I was relying on him bc he was my only support person in NH. Once I caught him he went back on ALL of it. He decided to no longer attending appointments, and he has told me he would not be there when our son was born knowing I didn’t have family in NH. He was the only person I relied on to be in the room. After our sweet baby shower he went to her house and I caught him there the next day. He stopped paying our rent, leaving me unable to afford the apartment on my own while heavily pregnant. AFTER agreeing to continue to pay rent so our son and I could have a place to stay until June to figure things out. The only reason I am not in a worse position is because HIS family stepped in to help, for which I am deeply grateful. I built my entire pregnancy around the expectation that he would show up. His mom called him while I was staying with her and put him on speaker. He said EXTREMELY hurtful things about our son and was racist towards him. Which really hurt because we planned him. He was there for my pregnancy for 8 months and was excited to meet him. I was already struggling to eat because of the break up but hearing him say that stuff made it hard to even keep water down. I went to get our son monitored and my OB got my cat and I a flight to Texas. Now I’m staying with my mom in TX. Not to mention we found out I was pregnant at 6 weeks. I got paid weekly as soon as I found out every Friday I’d withdraw $20 from my check and put it in a jar for our son. I discovered he took all the 20s, 10s and 5s leaving me with a bunch of 1s. He stole at least $300. I haven’t spoken to him since beginning of February. Our son was born 03•03•26. I was VERY fortunate to have my best friend who has 3 children in the delivery room with me. I haven’t reached out to let him know nor has he reached out to me. I know he knows by now. Everyone at the job we met at knows and his family knows.