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I have a very unique experience with this. I was bi, for a very long time with only some drunken kissing. I also identify as being demisexual (needing emotional connection to have a physical relationship).
I have always had a stronger attraction to women than men, but have only had relationships with men. It doesn’t make the attraction I feel any less valid. If that was the case then any lesbian who’s never been a man would have to say their attraction isn’t valid.
I know that if I ever left my husband I wouldn’t have another relationship with a man. I am no longer attracted to men.
I now identify as a demisexual lesbian in a long term relationship with a man.
This is your identity. Only you get to choose what feels right. No one else gets to tell you if it’s valid.
Gender and sexuality is as fluid as water.

You claim what you feel. We don't police your experiences whether it's just curiosity or an actual attraction. I fought the idea of being bi when I was in high-school because it seemed like everyone was doing it as a fad so I definitely get not knowing if you actually have that feeling or not. I finally accepted I was bi when my visual gratification choices turned really lesbian in nature 🤭🤭 Hell, even 2 guys could spark a fire. 🤣🤣 If you really want to check, Id start with videos. And if you are absolute on not having a 3 partner but you think you need that feeling, there are plenty of toys. Me and my hubby had our talk and it went left field quick, so we compromised for any urges.

Thats all you need. Some feelings we question because its uncharted territory, but signs are usually very clear. But chat rooms work well too. Make yourself and your marriage comfortable for you so you can feel like you're not hiding or shamed for what you feel, while maintaining your loyalty and love with your husband. Mostly communication but I think every does that. But, Welcome to Bi Nation 😂🙃🥰

I wouldn’t get too hung up on labels like worrying if you’re bi or not, sexuality is a spectrum and you don’t have to put yourself in a category if it’s not helpful.

It’s not uncommon for women to have some sort of sexual appreciation for other women, having spoken to my friends about it is say the majority do to some degree. X

As someone who was straight, then bi, and now a lesbian… you can explore your sexuality without betraying your husband. You can read sapphic books. You can make queer friends and hear their stories and get involved in the queer community. You can deconstruct comphet. There are many ways to connect to their sexuality outside of actual sex so don’t limit yourself. Your bisexuality is valid! And open up and talk with your husband- who knows maybe you guys can go to pride this year and he can be a supportive ally to his bisexual wife cuz many do! 🫶🏻

Talk to the husband, mine doesn’t want a 3sum but he doesn’t see me doing anything w a woman as cheating. I can go and have a side gf or a kiss or whatever w a woman and he wouldn’t care and doesn’t react. He says women aren’t the same competition as another man would be (I disagree but whatever I’m not fighting him on that lol) Just get his okay that if ever a woman does come along and the opportunity does present itself to explore that he’s okay w it. Then you can go out and have full freedom doing whatever w women and know it won’t affect his feelings. Dating me he already knew I’m bi, his boundaries for me are around men not women. I can spot a gorgeous girl (and tell him so) quicker than a good looking man on the street. And he’s promised to take me strip club but still hasn’t 🙄 If you make comments here and there complimenting women then he’ll slowly realise you are bi and you can have that convo w him. I don’t get insecure when I see a naked woman on screen I’m just admiring