I need advice!

My son has a tongue tie also. They offered to cut it when he was born but the doctor said he could suck fine so it would be an unnecessary procedure. I regret not doing it, it looks so restrictive and I've seen adults with tongue ties say that it affects their speech and their parts of their body, making their neck and shoulders tight. Idk if that's always the case but I really don't want to chance it. I want to get a referral to have it lasered. If the doctor says to wait, you can either wait or go to someone else. You're trying to advocate for him, that makes you a good mom. If your guts says to do speech therapy, make the doctor give you a referral.

Absolutely get it done! My son had severe lip and tongue ties. It was the best decision I ever made for my boy. It was very hard to understand him and he would get very frustrated.

Go to a pediatric dentist/surgeon. He was under anesthesia for less than 5 min. He was a little sore for a day or two. But you HAVE to keep up with the stretches. We have to do them for 6 weeks. Within a couple days, he was speaking normal and it was the most amazing thing I’ve witnessed.

Both my sons had severe lip and tongue ties. They don’t just grow out unless they are super mild but if he is hard to understand and you are regularly practicing annunciating words and he can form the sounds at all that would be concerning. But I also had a tongue tie and had it cut as a baby but it was never cut far enough so I grew up insecure about speaking and had a mild lisp until I got my tongue pierced and the guy noticed and offered to slice it more for me which made a huge improvement in my ability to annunciate and speak more freely and with confidence.
My first the midwife said don’t worry about it because he was nursing fine but I knew it would be a problem when he was older we got it done around 8 months so when my second son couldn’t even nurse without it hurting I didn’t hesitate to get an assessment and actually went for a specialized pediatric dentist who made sure they cut the tongue free completely. Unlike my now 5 yo who’s is not actually complete

His speech is fair but his ability to move his tongue as well as they way they did the lip tie wasn’t done nearly as clean and professionally as with my second. Definitely do your research don’t just let some random doctor do it. Find a pediatric dentist that specializes in tongue and lip ties. Also learn about liver jellies that can happen sometimes on the lip. With my first he had one and it just seemed like he was bleeding non stop but it was actually just a clot that was all gushed out. And is much easier and less scary to deal with when you know about it. Also with my second the pediatric dentist noticed a couple places where there could have been more bleeding and made sure to cotterize those spots. Also as yours is older you want to discuss pain management. Though i don’t remember it hurting when I got mine slit as a wide awake teen it might be more sensitive as a child. I would also prepare your son ideally with talking about the benefits and how much better things will be aft

I’m actually in Canada and we went to Little Bird Pediatric Dentistry. You should look them up online and see if they can give you all the proper info for when you are searching for someone near by. They may even know somewhere in your area in the states as the main lady travels to give seminars about the importance of cutting far enough back and freeing the tongue completely and properly. When I can I plan to take my 5yo there for a reassessment and see what they can do to complete the tongue and correct the cosmetics of the lip tie.

Are there stretching exercises you can do? My son has both tongue and lip tie. We did not and don’t plan on having anything done about it. We can understand him but he never says the S sounds at the beginning of a word. I personally would do speech therapy and oral exercises before doing a surgical procedure of any sort. Follow your gut.

Teach him sign language so you can better communicate thats what I did with my boys