Mediation
Has anyone recently tried mediation? My ex partner is trying to become main parent by requesting for an extra day - this came about since I applied for child maintenance. It’s currently 60/40. He doesn’t want to pay, so he’s currently requesting for an extra day. Bare in mind our sons had a perfect routine between us since October last year! And now my ex is unhappy with it! In asking for this day, he would become main parent. But I’m not okay with this. I do everything for our son, doctors appointments, dentist, nursery, nursery bills alone. I’m refusing this extra day each week.
So I had my first MIAM yesterday and I decided to try mediation. Hopefully he co operates🤦🏽♀️
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I currently don’t get any child maintenance. We did mediation, was very stressful though as he was emotionally abusive & why I ended th marriage. We did agree on some things however he keeps on breaking agreements. The latest being letting our 2 year old son sleep in bed with him & his fiancée. Bearing in mind the age of our child & we have only been separated 10 months. I had to issue a solicitor letter to him the other week about his inconsistencies & now as he is self employed he’s taken a day off during the week to have our son. They will do anything to not have to pay money. Like yourself do all dr appointments, nursery bills etc. I’ve had to compartmentalise a lot of my sanity. I wish u good luck
If he is willing to do 50/50 and take on more of those responsibilities with that, you could always trial it. If you put to him that he would have to help with doctors, dentist etc and he refuses then I would refuse the 50/50. You can’t use the fact you do all of the appointments against him if he is willing and wanting to do those things but you won’t let him due to the current 60/40 agreement
Oh my co parenting is awful and reopens the wounds daily plus still getting abuse now & trying to raise my child thinking his father is a nice person. So mentally draining.
I wasn’t offered shuttle mediation wish I had of been because that process was hell sitting with him & then he would deny things that happened.
I know it’s crazy the man is mental he doesn’t know I know he is engaged I was told through friends as he put it all over Facebook.
I wish u well. I find daily mediation, counselling and getting out in the fresh air has really helped. I hope it goes ok
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