Bonding
My LO is one month tomorrow. Since his been born technically every day his with me. My husband went back to work day 2 due to being self employed and he doesn’t get paid time off. He does help on days he isn’t working and after work like feeding or changing or just having him in general. He will talk to him and have his hand stroking his back or head when I’m putting him to sleep. However only occasionally he will sleep for his dad otherwise he won’t go sleep for him we’ve tried and few minutes after I take him he will drift of majority of the time. He will happily take a bottle from him and hold his finger. But I feel terrible as I can see it hurts him and any chance we have my partner will have him even if I’m next to him etc. I know his only a month old and it hasn’t helped that I’m always there every day doing the feeds and everything else and the bond will come in time etc but is there anything I or we can do to make it easier for his dad etc if that makes sense. I hate knowing at the moment that our LO is wanting me more.
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The key is for dad to just keep spending time with him and taking care of him, to establish trust and a strong bond. Right now baby doesn't realize he's a separate person from you, so he's most secure with you. It will change over time. As a baby and toddler he will alternate between preferred parents. For now, it's all about establishing trust and the way to do that is by taking care of him and comforting him, and responding to his cries. You being nearby can help, but also try to let dad figure it out on his own and try not to hover. Dad also has to remain calm and not take it personally. The more worked up he gets, the more baby will get worked up, too. Calm is key.
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