Burnout.

I got a 2 yr old too who needs to be attached to my hip 24/7 n im trying to pack because we are moving so i completely understand love feel free to message me anytime

Have you tried including him in those things? He can 'help' wipe counters off with a dry rag, use the broom, pick up trash, etc as you work on another task. Getting him included will take time and effort but once he's got it down you can actually make strides at having help and he'll feel better about things because he gets to DO something with you.

Is it possible to do your gym routine at night or have husband manage that so you get time for yourself with no likely expectation to tend to him after? Or again-incorporate it as a shared activity so he feels engaged.

Does he have enough outlets for his energy to wear him out? A different park a day to explore and keep him occupied or an occasional trip somewhere he CAN be wild for a bit while you get some down time?

I talk about plans for the day and give my son a lot of prep/redirecting to manage his fussiness when he wants something else. Making sure he's not overtired or hungry is a big part of the day as he's growing and it WILL make him irritable.

At that age not having any control over anything or having an opportunity to try or explore will make them SO frustrated. Letting go of some reservations to let him handle toddler knives and cut snacks, pour his drinks, clean his messes, help with chores, etc not only prepare him to be more independent but can curb a lot of the frustration building up inside. At least that's been my experience with my son, and it's helped me loosen up and allow him to learn and grow while giving him the space to feel capable and involved so he is more willing to follow my lead when we need to stay on task. Otherwise it's a power struggle and you're both overwhelmed.

I'd ask Dad to really keep up chats on how to treat and listen to you while he's around and to do rough play when he's home to wind him down. I don't do any rough play with my son, that's ALL dad. I am his nurturer and snuggler. Keep those play fights far away 😂 but that also helps some of that energy I have found.

Let him help you in little ways. Get him his own set of safe cleaning things like a tiny broom, pushing a swiffer around, yoh spraying the counters with soapy water and letting him wipe, etc.

I agree with the others letting g him help would be beneficial but also this could be a learned behavior. Do you try to tend to hi. Or occupy him every time he fusses or cries? It could be that he learned that if her acts out, runs off, throws a fir, or cries he's learned he can get his way or at most get your attention. Maybe do some structured activities and allow him to explore unstructured, if you do attend to his fussing try letting him figure it out at first. Let him fuss a moment and see what he does. Sometimes they get distracted with something else when they dont any responses. Praise the positive and try to ignore the negative. To get things done like cleaning maybe try a child safe room or gated area with cameras to monitor his play and random check ins while you work. Good luck mama.... wait til the teenage years!!!

My baby is pretty independent surprisingly. But if I sit down, she comes running to me and climbs all over me and shit 😂