Is this true?
There was a post I read which I can’t get out of my mind. I have a son and a daughter (both under 2). It basically said how daughters become a reflection of us, they are a mirror back at us showing us the good and bad and making us reflect. The same with sons and their fathers eventually.
My marriage has been a wreck since we had kids, constant bickering and disrespect. There are good parts. Would I want my daughter to be who I am now? Someone who accepts being spoken to like this? I used to be a very strong, loud, proud and extroverted person. I would love for her to be like be like the person I was 5 years ago. However, now I feel silenced in my home, allowing myself to be disrespected. I can’t say all of the changes are due to my husband, maybe motherhood too.
I can’t stop thinking, would I want my son to treat his future wife how I am being treated? No. Would I want my daughter accepting being spoken to this way? No.
He is a good dad in many other ways, he does provide, plays with them, helps with bedtime routine etc. but we are failing to model a good relationship. I dont think he likes me anymore, let alone love. I’ve brought up therapy many times but he will never agree.
Maybe it’s best to be apart? I don’t know what messes up kids less.
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