Just curious, how would you feel?

I was in my room sorting several loads of laundry & my dad called (who we haven't spoken to in a while) so I was on the phone with him & had my kids come say hi. We were chatting and hubby came home, walked in & said "what are all these kids doing in my room?" while I was on the phone. When I got off the phone I let him know why. He said we could have talked to my dad in the hallway. I was in the middle of sorting loads of laundry, I told him I wasn't going to stop what I was doing just to get up & move to the hallway to have a 5 minute convo. Plus our hallway is so small/short it shouldn't even be considered a hallway. I mentioned how the kids come in our room to get dressed & get their lotion on after a bath and things like that, and he said all that can/should be done somewhere else also. When I made the comment about how I wasn't gonna go out my way to do that, he said something about me not obeying his rules. I said "obey" is crazy! Thoughts please?
For some context, we don't like the kids in our room because they're always messing something up & getting into things. Which I understand. But I didnt know he was so strict about it to the point where it would be a problem for them to be in there supervised for just a couple minutes.

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Husband hell..

So I have been with my husband for over 15 years. We got together young. Had baby no1 4.5 years ago and our youngest is 8months old. He was so attentive during my first pregnancy and very hands on at the beginning with baby no1. Time passed and I ended up ‘doing more’ but I was part time etc, so it made sense! With my second pregnancy, he just wasn’t the same, not as caring/considerate. Nothing negative, just not like before. I presumed it was because of our eldest and he was ‘helping out’ with her more and let it go!
He was good when baby was born, but since then, I feel like anything I ask him to do is just a chore. He’s SO negative, sees the bad before it’s happened (often doesn’t even happen). He’s obsessed with his phone - can’t go a few minutes without pulling it out and scrolling (no I don’t think he’s cheating). He’s always ‘stressed about work’. And he’s just been a bit shit with my postpartum recovery/journey. He is always miserable and grumpy and it’s making me the same way….. we’re snappy with each other and I’d just rather not be around him.
I constantly question if he is the right one for me anymore and I keep having this prang of ‘me and the kids don’t deserve to be miserable’. And keep having thoughts that he wasn’t the best choice for a dad.

Has anyone been through similar and recovered from this? Any tips? Do I have PND? Does he have depression? Gahhhhhh!!!!!!

Thanks for reading.

From a very tired, miserable mumma!

Is it normal??

My 12 year old has 2 brown teeth and he is not allowing me to brush his teeth

Any help is appreciated

Hear me out… tell me what you will do if you were me!!

You and your our husband both have a child before getting together and two together. The first child’s mother doesn’t want him to be involved in the child life because he has other kids from his wive and cause he got married and not to her. The child has been to the house only when it convenient for the mama. And only been around the other siblings about 3 times. As the wives I’ve tried to be the bigger person and help her as best as I could and not be nasty towards her. However, she has called DCF multiple times saying all kinds of nasty things. The child had choked our youngest child and beat on the other with different objects. The child is told he don’t have to listen to me or eat anything I cook. His dad with feed him and etc. he has broken my children game systems, ruined shoes and clothes, toys everything then tell his mom he’s being mistreated over here. When he get the same a my kids. The only thing is my kids have iPhones/ iPads and he has android and that’s bc I brought them not dad. Btw I can’t discipline him or he don’t have to follow house rules cause his mom say say so. The kids ages as follows oldest to youngest…. 11(mines), 8(his), 6(ours) and 5(ours). Hubby tries to play middle man and keep the peace but it’s becoming too much. On top of that the kids had graduation and prom on the same day different schools. 11 has graduation, 5 prom and 8 graduation all the same day. She wants him to come but not me and our kids. But want the gifts for him. I said if I can’t go I’m not giving anything or doing anything.. advice please mamas….

Was this unethical? Therapist edition lol

I had a therapist 6 years ago who was great. We did a lot of good work together and it was always professional. Emotional, of course I mean obviously, but no lines were ever crossed. We ended our therapeutic journey and then had check ins about every 3 months or so. The check ins were brief interactions- how are the babies, spouses, what’s new, so good hearing from you bye.

A few weeks ago he texted me about his wife leaving him and he found messages btwn her and an older man. (Emotional not physical cheating) He knows that my partner cheated a long time ago so I’m kind of experienced with this and he was asking me what tools I used to help heal from the trauma. I told him and from that point on we were texting every day. He would vent and ask for advice, disclose thoughts and feelings and then other times it was just casual chatter about favorite drinks and what we like to do with our babies for fun. He called me his friend.

Then today he tells me his wife wants to come back and that means he can’t talk to me anymore. He’ll check in every few months and that’s it.

I guess I’m sad. I’m not attracted to him in any way, to be clear. I was hoping she would come back to him and commit to trying again. I want good things for them but damn this just hurt. I guess maybe I’m dumb for believing that we were actually friends.

Moms with a husband/fiancé/boyfriend

Father’s Day is next month and I’d like to do something for my husband. I’m a stay at home mom for about a year and so I have no income at the moment. I’m a bit of an artist and a pretty good cook! Most Father’s Day, I write a letter and draw a picture/draw digital art and make a dinner that he will talk about most. (Within the last month or two) I’m looking for something to do for him to make him feel even more appreciated than I currently do.. what do yall normally do for Father’s Day with no money?

I need support… 😭

I’m running on empty. I’ve been a SAHM for 41/2 years straight now. I have a 6 year old, 2 year old and a 1 year old.

I’m absolutely exhausted.

My older two fight constantly, even though they’re having fun together half the time, it only lasts so long though. My 1 year old is clingy. My husband works 10-12 hour days.

I feel like I get nothing done most of the time and then panic and stay up too late catching up.

I’m over tired, over weight, unhappy and feel like a bad mom because I’m over everything.

I’ve resorted to yelling at my children throughout the day which I feel bad about but I’m literally on my last straw and even that is half broken. My oldest is undiagnosed but I’m pretty sure has autism or adhd(I’m diagnosed).

My sex drive is non existent these days, I don’t want anyone to touch me anymore, I have very few friends and honestly just feel like crying.

I really need someone to validate my feelings and tell me that this season is not going to last forever. That everything will be okay. And any tips on making siblings get along would be great too!

Thank you for listening to my Ted talk 😅😭🥹