Not sure how to feel

My 6 y/o daughter has been making comments about what she wants to be when she gets older and she often talks about staying home and being pregnant…I never know what to say. I’ve had a job and huge ambitions up until I got twin pregnant at 25 and safe to say I never planned on having kids nor being married. I just hate that she doesn’t have other goals in mind. Especially when I keep her so engaged in activities. Being financially dependent and overly responsible isn’t a future I want for her.

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She can be a stay at home mum AND a successful business owner. She’s 6 her frontal lobe is in its initial stages of development. She’s got a solid 20+ years till she’s a full functional human. If she says she wants that then in that moment that’s what she wants.

I have multiple SAHM friends and we all own business and married men that are happy to provide and work hard. Being a mother is one of the hardest careers in the world. Don’t be worried about your child speaking outside of the social construct of the world and though you had other aspirations, well done to you for being such a great mum that your LO would love to be like you ❤️ as she gets older she will find other interests as well. So don’t worry and don’t try to force her into other things. She’s still a baby xx

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I don’t see anything wrong with it. She probably sees you home taking care of everyone and wants to be like her mom. I think it’s sweet. I wouldn’t entertain fear of the future/ financial dependency etc. She’s 6.

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She’s only 6, she’ll probably change her mind about a lot of things. Most women I know who have good jobs had SAHMs so it doesn’t really mean that’s what she will choose.

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She’s only 6, she’s just looking at what’s immediately around her and wanting to emulate that. My daughter often says she’s going to do my job when she’s older. She’s got a long way to go before she makes any decisions like that, she will change her mind before then.

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I feel like this is a compliment. She sees you as her role model and wants to be just like you ❤️

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I’ve made lots of money before, never LOVED a job. However I only want to be a SAHM and be there for my family. It’s the most fulfilling and tiresome job ever! For me it’s my dream job! ❤️ one day I may join the workforce again but for now I’m enjoying this season of life 💕don’t be too hard on yourself or your daughter mama

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She's 6

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Also being a stay at home mom is just as rewarding or more in my opinion than going into an office. What she wants to be in life is a mother. I personally find that beautiful.

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Don't read to much into it. She's just saying she can imagine herself being like you and likes you. A lot of 5-6 year olds say they want to be a teacher, not because they really do, that's just a nice role model that they have seen doing normal life stuff and can imagine being like when they grow up. Avoid saying she shouldn't consider it because it's a hard job. She can do (other) hard things, she just doesn't know what those things are yet. Point out other female role models in her life like what her aunts or grandmas do/did. Also other figures in her life, like her teachers, pediatrician, or dentist.

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I think it’s sweet it means she admires you and what you do. A huge compliment on how you are as a parent I’d say. Women can be great present mothers and have careers too especially with so many options of working from home these days. Plus she’s only 6 I wouldn’t worry so much! Let kids be kids 😊 xxx

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It's natural for her to want to be a mother. We're not supposed to be living this life that's been created for us by the elite

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