I'm 41 in an early 20s community
Hi mamas! I will be 42 this year, and I have 3 kids (18, 3.5, and 1.5). We just moved to another state where 90% of moms with young kids seem to be very young, like in their early 20s with multiple kids already. It's hard enough moving half way across country and starting over in your 40s (my husband is 48), I'm really trying to find mom friends here, but it seems like I don't have anything in common with the early 20s moms. They are only a few years older than my oldest son. I feel like I have lived another life with my oldest and then started over with two younger ones, and these young moms are just starting out. Really not sure how to find older moms if there are any at all here. Any advice welcome.
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What state..Im 40 22yr old 20 yr old and 1 year old...I k ow the feeling
I'm 40 and just had my first kid last year, I hear ya!
Im 43 with a 2 year old and literally zero mom friends around my age. I don’t mind it but it’d be nice to make friends with children the age as my daughter for play dates etc
I’m 40, and my little boy turns 5 in just 6 days 🥰💙
We’re down here in South Florida, and I’ll be honest… making real, genuine mom friends hasn’t been the easiest.
There’s something about turning 40 that just feels different—like stepping into a whole new chapter of life. Not in a bad way… just a deeper, more intentional one. You start craving real connections, real conversations, and people who just get it without having to explain everything.
I would truly love to connect with other moms around my age who are in a similar season of life. The ones who understand the mix of love, exhaustion, growth, and everything in between. If that’s you, I’m here 🤍
That sucks, where are you located?
Any 40s near pittsburgh? 41 with a 3yr over here. Ive gotten to the point where ive separated my friends from my sons play date mom friends. There is one mom my age that I can see myself remaining close with i am so lucky to have met her. But, for the most part, ive given up meeting a BFF mom friends/play date partners all in one. Don't get me wrong I love the 20s moms. I wanted to be one lol but it would be nice to mom with someone who remembers the 1990s
I hope you find the right friends. Not sure how you'll meet them. I gave up, at this point if I meet people it's cool. All of my friends live in different states
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