I regret this
I just need to say it, because it's eating me up, but my baby is 13 days old and I regret it already. He spent 8 days in NICU, we're home now, but I can't bond with him. I have no patience, and my partner is just the perfect parent. I feel like I shouldn't have done this, and can't see a way through. I want so badly to be a good Mum, but I just can't bear the screaming and constant pain from the c section.
Please tell me if this gets better, or how I can be a better Mum.
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No one is a perfect parent. I know youre a good mum simply by the fact youre worrying you arent being a good enough mum. The newborn stage is a big adjustment, and itll take a few months to get into routine. Its normal for mums who have had traumatic experiences (nicu n c section is alot!) In birth to struggle bonding at first, but it gets better. Youve got hormones, exhaustion, pain ect and its overwhelming. OF COURSE your partner is gunna find it easier because theyve not just had a whole human taken out of their body.
The best thing you can do mama is take it easy, a c section is HARD on the body so you need to take care of yourself so you can also take care of your baby. As for bonding, just interact with him. Talk to him, sing, cuddle. He will love you no matter what you do. Youre doing AMAZING.
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