Be real with me here ladies… validate my feelings or tell me I’m being sensitive 😝
How would you feel if your significant other chose to bring their 6 year old son (your stepson) to a World Cup game ON your daughter’s first birthday. (He had asked 5 other people to go to this game prior to his son, and not once did he even think to as me. Probably because he knows I wouldn’t miss my daughter’s first birthday.) First birthday, first year of breastfeeding, first milestones, ect.
I’m feeling like I set expectations from the beginning that birthdays and holidays mean a lot to me and my expectations are feeling overlooked. This birthday for her is extremely important to me…I’m feeling hurt. How would you feel??
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Is she his daughter as well? If so he should prioritise her, if not I feel like it’s a bit of a grey territory
You’re probably right that he thought you wouldn’t want to go. If you want to, and you say something will he take you? I would probably tell my husband I would like to!
World Cup doesn’t come here often and your daughter won’t know it’s her birthday. She can be celebrated still but on a day close!
If you have communicated about birthdays and holidays and have made plans for her birthday on her birthday I understand being upset but if you all have a party planned for a separate date and he fully plans on being involved and celebrating that day then I understand why the day of he feels it’s okay to plan something else of that magnitude. Now if you said he’s playing golf all day with the boys.. something he can control the scheduling/rescheduling of yes I’d be upset if he refused to attempt to reschedule but he can’t really reschedule the World Cup game. But it all comes down to communication. And there’s more to your anger than him not being there day of birthday. It sounds like you’re upset he didn’t consider taking you and just assumed instead of asking making you feel like not even an option. So talk to him about it. Most med will communicate you just have to start the conversation because I doubt he even knows there’s an issue.
He has three weeks to go to a World Cup gane. Isn’t it his daughter as well? How are you celebrating her birthday? Can he do both ie if it’s an evening game?
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