This is a hard one for me because growing up I didn’t celebrate holidays. So now having children, I don’t know what to do. Should I celebrate them because everyone else they’re around with does it? Do I go about it based on my beliefs or do I allow them to to form their own beliefs around it and celebrate the holidays for them?
Ultimately, I just want them to be happy.
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Celebrate with your beliefs when they are young. When they old enough they can form their own beliefs. I mainly celebrate when I can for my son. There have been two Christmases since he has been born that he has received stuff but it also hard because his birthday is in the 12th of December and I don't want to be one of those parents that combine bdays with Christmas. Lol Anyway, I celebrate with my kids to make memories with them.

Whatever you want to do to be honest, it doesn’t matter that much in the grand scheme of things 🤷🏼♀️ I would personally do some level of what your culture/community does so it’s not completely alien to them when they start school and all the kids are talking about it, or at least teach them about it. Like we’re not religious and have never celebrated Easter for example, except for buying chocolate eggs lol. But now with my daughter I do her a little basket so she won’t be the only one not receiving anything, and we go to all the Easter related events because they’re fun and her friends go too, so she has a concept of it but we don’t necessarily ‘celebrate’.
As much as I hate the consumerism around Christmas now, I’d also hate to be the only kid in class who didn’t have an answer to ‘what did Santa bring you’

Fair warning, last time I saw a post like this a bunch of woman were acting like it was borderline abuse to not celebrate Christmas 😂 but children can have a happy childhood without the need for over the top commercialised holidays. If you don't want to celebrate things that you don't believe in or care about, don't do it! If you're open to discussing things with them when they get older and creating your own family traditions even better. Like maybe you don't chuck a bunch of cash at Christmas but you do a January family holiday and get gifts in the sales to celebrate the new year! Good holidays doesn't equal happy children. They can be great memories but so can many things, days out, trips away etc.

For us it depends on the holiday! Regardless we always celebrate in our own way.
We aren’t religious but we celebrate Christmas in our own way, we say happy new years as it turns into January 1st but we consider the new year to actually start in the spring, we love Halloween so of course we partake there, Valentine’s Day I decorate the door ways in the house & there’s baked goods and lots of love, Easter we go to family functions we get invited to, (and accept Easter baskets, but we don’t go out of our way to create one for our own child 🤷♀️), we acknowledge Mother’s Day & Father’s Day!
We don’t “celebrate” the 4th of July or thanksgiving, but we do go to functions we are invited to on those days

Are you in one of the cults that don’t believe in celebrating birthdays or having blood transfusions?