Baby Carrier Troubles

Hi! I have two carriers (the Boba Wrap and the Baby Björn Mini). When my baby was a few weeks old she tolerated the baby wrap and slept alright in it. However, I didn’t keep up baby wearing with the wrap because I live in Florida and that thing made me overheat and baby would come out of it also drenched in sweat. Now that she’s a little older (2 months), I’ve tried the Baby Björn and the Boba Wrap and she fights being in both of them. She still tolerates the wrap a little more so long as I’ve tied it tight enough that she won’t slip down.

We’re going on a hiking trip in about a month and I’m trying to get her used to a structured carrier. What carriers have worked for you? **Note: baby tends to face plant or rub her face on my chest instead of laying her head sideways like she’s supposed to while in the carrier.

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Such a bad sleeper! I Can’t take it anymore

My daughter has never been a great sleeper, but recently it feels especially unpredictable and exhausting. For example, yesterday she woke up at 5:30am but only had a 30minute nap at 10am and then stayed awake until 7:45pm.
I tried offering another chance for a short nap later in the day, but she wasn’t interested. We had a busy family day and she was really happy, so I expected her to be exhausted by bedtime and have a good nights sleep. However she was still up multiple times and was very difficult to settle and took over an hour to go back to sleep. This morning she woke at 4:45am, clearly still tired and irritable, but unable to go back to sleep.
It feels like no matter how active or calm her day is, or how tired she appears, her sleep doesn’t follow a consistent pattern. On the other hand, there are days when she has a two-hour lunchtime nap and a very relaxed schedule, but the outcome is the same. She still wakes multiple times overnight and often takes a long time to resettle.
I’ve tried tracking her sleep to identify patterns, but nothing seems to make sense. I’ve also tried a more flexible “go with the flow” approach, letting her sleep whenever and wherever she needs it, but that hasn’t helped either.
My husband is keen to try for another baby, but I’m hesitant because I can’t imagine managing pregnancy alongside such broken sleep. We do support each other through the nights and take turns where we can, but it still feels very draining.

He’ll things feel worse more than ever

Is it a woman's duty to have sex with their partner no matter how she feels and to even put her babies 2nd just to please him?

Even if she is post-partum, the default parent, doing everything around the house or maybe not feeling up to it... Should her duty be to have sex? Otherwise he has a "right" to go elsewhere for it or a "right" to treat her unfairly if doesn't? Also should the babies/children come last just to fulfill this "duty"?

Postpartum hair loss

Hey guys! I’m four months postpartum. Does anyone know of a good product or something for postpartum hair loss? I’m also breast feeding. So has to be safe for that.

Parfume

Weird question
I’m 9weeks pp and ever since I gave birth I haven’t used any perfume on my skin/clothes because I’m scared my baby will not like it or will iritate his skin. Any thought?

Should I be getting up more when baby wriggles and fusses?

Baby and I are co-sleeping, and he has a lot of wind at the minute. So throughout the second half of the night he’s always wriggling, grunting and fussing a lot.

I wake up when he does this and it’s often hard to tell if he’s asleep or not. Last night one time I turned the light on, clocked his eyes were still closed so turned it back off. What I tend to do is just put a hand on his chest. Sometimes he calms back to stillness, sometimes he carries on wriggling but still seems to be asleep.

Last night this was happening for about 3 hours straight and I’m wondering if I should have woken him up, winded him and cuddled him. Was he unhappy for all that time? I think he was asleep for most of it. But I just feel like I was neglecting him with my approach.

Newborn not weeing for 12 hours

For the first few days he did so many wees (I’m feeding him colostrum from the breast as day 3 and my milk hasn’t come in yet) I have so much colostrum is just squirts out of me and leaks etc.

Anyway he did loads of wee’s and poos and he is still pooing but no wee for over 12 hours now.

Really worrying now. Midwives say it’s normal but to wee that much and just stop? I’ve even topped him off with formula because I’m worrying he’s not getting enough.

Anyone else been through it?