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First time mums

Feeling bitter at the school

So a few months back I had a domestic call out, it was a misunderstanding. My partner was shouting at the footy, the police came questioned us and left happy, I only had my youngest with me at the time, my oldest was at his dads, the next day his dad dropped him at mine and said he was sick so I informed the nursery. Well they 'verified' my story with his dad and he said he hadn't been sick so I get another police visit the next day for 'threat to life' as again he wasn't in but again I contacted the nursery.
Iwas understanding, they were trying to keep my boy safe but it pissed me off that I, the full time parent who am being treated like I'm abusive. So after that call out nothing happened until today, his dad drops him off to me and says he's sick so can't go I to nursery I tell him to call the school.... They havnt verified his story to me,no call or email which has again pissed me off
He is with me most of the week, his dad cancels all the time, never books off work or works round anything, hardly ever shows up for his boy, I have to ask so many times for child support, he doesn't even know what school our boy goes to but he is somehow the more trustworthy parent, when I split up with him 3 years back he had a meltdown, wouldn't leave my home for 3 months, kept threatening to kill himself, the police had to be called and I was in contact with social services as I refused to allow him to have our boy alone, I said he needed to do some parenting classes before I could trust him again and he did through social services.
So now I'm here, I have such an urge to contact the nursery and tell them how unhappy I am with the accusations and their actions in dealing with that situation.
I will add that my neighbour works at the school and I'm 99%sure she informed them of the police situation