Lack of support.
I don't know if I need advise or to rant but I've no one else to really speak to.
So I met my boyfriend in November, Fell pregnant February and due November. A big surprise for both of us and understable. This is my first and partners second (11 year old boy already).
I feel I am getting no support from him. Yes he comes to scans, but never asks how I am, hasn't helped financially at all, says my gender reveal is cringe and won't come, he has started going out with friends and drinking more and the cheery on the cake for me was I asked him if he was spending some paternity leave at mine when baby is here and I got a shrug of the shoulders and maybe response. He also still hasn't told his family I am expecting. I'm currently 20+5 weeks and we both knew since I was around 4 weeks.
Do I stay and wait and see if he changes. Or do I leave and focus on myself and baby?
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Mine was the same. Difference was he told his family and seemed excited when we found out. But he went back to old habits, cheating and drinking, ❄️❄️ etc etc so I binned him. He was just dead weight, get on better than I think I would if I was with him. It just depends on how you feel about him but he sounds like hes too immature to be any support to you sadly xx
He doesnt seem remotely interested...get out while you can. What a scumbag!
I’ve been in a bit similar situation. I don’t think he’ll change,he seems to be more interested in doing other things instead of focusing on what matters. You’re pregnant,that’s when he should be supportive in every way possible. He should also be supportive financially,baby will need stuff and all that ain’t cheap. Focus on you,your baby and your mental health. Don’t push what’s not working
I pretty much did it alone and my wee girl is 2.5 now. You have an 11 year old that will be so excited to have a new baby sibling I'm sure they will be so much help to you ❤️ Its a very vulnerable, scary feeling so I do feel you, I'm sorry he's treating you like that ❤️❤️
I think deep down I know staying is worse than leaving. And I think I've accepted that and just need the strength to follow through. I'm very lucky I have support from others such as my mum and very close friends so I know I won't be alone in that sense ❤️xx
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