Was the Dr right or wrong to recommend this?
So a family member had a consultation with a Dr where they recommended either for her to have tubes tied or for him to have a snip or for both to use double protection at all times.
Backstory is they have had several (4 or 5) miscarriages and stillbirths, all usually in the 2nd trimester. They have been together about 5 years and already have an older child from her previous relationship who has autism and learning difficulties and another child together (18 months old) with many complex conditions, which mean they won’t be able to walk and will be having treatments and surgeries throughout the their life. Since this child was born they’ve had 2 miscarriages at 12+ weeks.
She has uncontrolled type 1 diabetes and every pregnancy puts her in the hospital for extended periods of time. They have another conditions and issues, which I won’t go into. But her health situation is not controlled and stable.
Basically my question is was the Dr wrong by recommending not having any more children?
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A bit more context might be needed but it sounds like they were trying to say it’s in the woman’s best interest due to health and safety concerns, that she not get pregnant again. As a heath professional this seems reasonable. I think if the health concerns were off the table and they were implying “you have your hands full already” then that would have been highly inappropriate.
The reason I’m asking the question is because they were pissed and put a complaint in about the Dr who suggested this. So I’m wondering if we’re all missing something because we expected them to realise this after hearing it from the Dr.
The whole family are secretly agreeing with this Dr but nobody is saying it to their face.
I mean he can't actively stop them from conceiving more children, which by the sounds they don't have particularly lucky outcomes when their DNA mixes. Is he suggesting that they stop and try IVF for a more "genetically chosen" child to reduce the risk of miscarriage/ birth defects?
Is this in the UK?
Ehhhhhhh I think if there’s uncontrolled diabetes in the situation they should try figuring out what treatment plan would help that before they recommend to remove reproductive organs.
But I am not a medical professional & I don’t know the full extent of this persons medical history
As a type 1, no I don't think he was wrong for suggesting it. Being uncontrolled while pregnant IS NEVER a good idea. SOOOOO many complications can happen to not just her but her baby as well. After my 3 miscarriages I finally went to my endo and she said that because my sugars were uncontrolled that could very well be the reason for my miscarriages but of course there's no way to check. Now of course if he pushed them to do it That wouldn't be OK. But from a medical standpoint he is looking out for her.
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