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If you ain't comfortable you ain't comfortable don't get pressured into anything, you will need to talk about how this impacts your relationship and set boundaries

I'm gonna be honest, I think you should leave. Ik that's easier said than done. But when you tell someone you don't want to do something, and they keep on that's a red flag. But there is a way to test it. Put your foot down and put it down hard. Tell him it's either the poly relationship or y'all's marriage. Just a personal opinion tho I'm not sure how I'd feel having someone bringing home multiple ppl with kids there so you might want full custody. Now I do know ppl who actually have poly relationships. They tell their significant others they're poly before even going into the talking stage, all of their partners know and meet each other before any other ppl are added to the relationship or ummm it's actually called a poly something i don't remember what tho. The main thing to remember is, do you want your kids to think they should do something they're uncomfortable with just bc someone else wants to??

IMO if it’s only just now being discussed he’s not poly he’s wanting to cheat with permission, he doesn’t want the consequences that come with leaving the relationship.