Are you private with family?
I’m naturally a more reserved and private person. I don’t like to tell people my business or be too close to people. My husband is the same but even more private. We keep our personal lives to ourself meaning we don’t really tell much to others (family etc) and we just live our life how we want and make moves in silence.
My family (mom and siblings) are the complete opposite. They’re very loud and open with everything in their lives. They tell eachother everything, gossip etc. My mom (in a polite way) is quite nosey and constantly loves to ask questions and find out things. She also likes to gossip and tells everyone everything - probably part of the reason I don’t say much.
Although im close with my family, im the least close out of all my siblings and that’s mainly due to working long hours and having a very busy hectic life with my kids and responsibilities. Its also because i have a completely different mindset to my mom and siblings, they live a certain way and dont understand other peoples ways of life.
My mom asks a lot of questions when im with her, but im very good at dodging them/giving vague answers and not saying too much. Me and my husband are about to buy our first home and move, which is something we have spent years planning. Although my mother knows this will happen at some point, I haven’t told her specifics of the progress we have been making.
Once we finalise everything and are 100% sure where and when we are moving, of course I will tell everyone. I just like to have my space and don’t want everyone’s opinions and questions.
Do you tell your family everything? If not, how do you avoid when questions are asked?
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I recently stopped. Won't be giving any pregnancy updates or anything, won't tell them about the birth of our 2nd probably until we are back home (with our first I video called from the hospital)
I’m very close to my mum but she doesn’t need to know my private life.
I never talk about marital things with my family and I would rather DIE than discuss sex with my mum or sister.
We are moving soon and we’ve been quiet about it. Details on finance, immigration, logistics are need to know. When it’s final, they’ll know but my father is the type to question everything like I’m 10 again and he knows best.
I tell my family everything. I told them when our offer on our home got accepted and told them I was pregnant both times the day I found out. I think it's good to tell family because they can offer help and support as they may have experience. For example when I had a miscarriage I couldn't have got through it without them.
My brother is quite private like you but I think that's just his personality. My mum gets upset but we remind her that's just him and not him doing it to upset her.
I am the exact same way. My mum is also quite nosey but I keep answers when I want to and have always been like this. We have just moved house and I only told family etc once we knew for sure all the mortgage was approved and we were 100% it would all be okay. Me and my husband are both private people and keep to ourselves. My elder sister (who is a drama queen and loud mouth) once made a comment that she doesn’t know what my husband and I are ever upto and I took that as a compliment as no one needs to know our business unless we tell them.
My family doesn’t gossip. If I tell them someone, no one else will find out. I don’t tell them every little detail of everything but even if I did, it wouldn’t matter. My family is very chill. Now my husband’s family is different. They don’t pry but will share whatever you tell them with every single cousin. I didn’t tell them I was pregnant with my last baby because of it lol. Kept it to myself and it was so quiet and nice.
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