Rainbow Babies: TTC, Pregnancy, & After Pregnancy Or Infant Loss

Waiting on my Rainbow

Hi this is my first time posting in this chat or really in general I think. We experienced a stillbirth with my daughter in March 2026, she was supposed to be my "April 2026 Baby". I never experienced a loss like this and it hurts, extremely. I'm not sure where to post this or if I even should.

No one talks about how much it hurts to leave the groups on here and not being able to join the groups you should've been joining. I was in April 2026 Babies and then had to leave because I knew these people would be posting their babies. I can't join First Time Moms because do I even qualify now?

Its so hard, we're ttc now and have been for about 4 months. It took us 4 months with our daughter so I'm praying this cycle but I feel so worn out and beat. I didn't think I'd be TTC so soon because I thought I'd have my daughter here with me.

TLTR: I guess I just need advice on ttc and how to not burn out (don't say don't focus on it)

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I’m so sorry for your loss. I haven’t experienced a stillbirth, so I can’t imagine that pain. I have lost two embryos through IVF, and with their due dates coming and going, I understand some of that hesitation around which groups you belong in. Your feelings are completely valid. I think it was incredibly strong of you to share this, especially while still grieving and TTC again. I’m praying for you and truly hoping this next chapter brings you everything you’ve been praying for.

I hope you are at the point where you can find a little joy in the small things 💕 I experienced a stillbirth at full term in July 2025 and it is truly the worst thing me and my partner have ever had to live with. Nothing takes the pain away but I do want you to know that the days get easier. But your baby never leaves you 🤍 in terms of TTC after such a loss - I feel you, it is tough and feels like so much is hanging on it every month, but also the guilt of trying again. It took us 7 months of TTC to conveice our rainbow baby and honestly that last one before we conceived - I was ready to give up. Mentally it drained me so I started doing things I’d given up on that I had put on the backburner - running, socialising etc. As a distraction. There is no way to “not think about it” because you have to 😅 when people say that I laugh. But I’m rooting for you 🤍 DMs are always open if you need to chat x

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Confused girly!

Okay ladies I need your help, I’m going out of my mind 🙈.

I have been going through fertility and I done a trigger shot 16 days ago, I’ve had 3 positive pregnancy tests (faint), 2 positive but even fainter lines but lines disappeared and 1 negative (digital)

Has anyone else experienced this? I called fertility and they said to treat it as a positive pregnancy due to having 3 positive tests (which they say is uncommon to have 1 false positive never mind 3) and that the other test could be negative or disappearing lines because the HCG isn’t strong enough this early on.

I'm not a gentle parent, I'm realistic.

I’m not a gentle parent, and I’m not sorry about it.

My kids get love, respect, and a whole lot of patience, I play with my kids every day — but they also get rules, boundaries, and consequences.

I’m not raising kids who think the world will cater to their feelings. I empathize, sympathize acknowledge their feelings with so much compassion.. while also balancing that with hard cold tones they need to understand, to survive.

I’m raising future adults who understand that life doesn’t hand out participation trophies, that “no” means no, and that actions have consequences. This is monumental to their early development. I do not barter with my kids, I do not give treats for listening to me. It helps self regulation, time & place, & helps them understand themselves.

I believe in discipline — structure, accountability, and learning right from wrong. I hold myself accountable, I am not on my phone often at all in front of my kids to set that example that life is too important.

Because one day, they’ll have a boss, not a mom. They’ll have responsibilities, not reminders. They will have their own homes, goals, aspirations... And they need to be ready for that.

So no, I don’t sit down and dissect every tantrum. I don't give them a sticker for going potty. I don't coddle them if they bit someone for the 10th time & keep smiling about it.
Sometimes the answer is: “Because I said so.” And that’s okay.

I’m not raising perfect kids. I am far from it myself. But if my parents taught me anything... I am raising respectful ones who are confident, go getting, maybe even self aware — and in this world, that matters.

I keep getting compliments from parents on vacation this week how my kids are so behaved, at home they give us a run for our money & we are constantly working on redirection, appropriate discipline, boundaries etc. My kids do chores at 2 years old & that looks like picking up after themselves. But we also do not have touch screens in our home.

Raising kids, is so unique & individual for everyone. Not one child is the same, they can be similar but not identical. However, it's our philosophy to raise our kids. Raise them. Not sit on our phones & let them wreck toys etc. Engage, as hard as it is.. daily. No matter what. Answer, respond, play, discipline.

What's your take?.

Lines getting darker

I’m so useless with line progress even though I’ve had two kids 🤣 I’ve tested again today I’m 5 weeks 6 days (I keep testing because I’m so anxious I’ll miscarriage) what does it mean if the line is darker than the control line ?

Is the absent father better dead or alive?

Am I wrong for making an obituary for my sperm donor. He’s dead to me and I will tell my daughter that he’s dead so she doesn’t grow up feeling abandoned like I did growing up. For context he faked a dna test and posted it saying my daughter isn’t his…

Got a faint positive at 9dpo

I’m so scared but excited it’s been 8 weeks since we lost our son at 18 weeks

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Confused girly!

I'm not a gentle parent, I'm realistic.

Lines getting darker

Is the absent father better dead or alive?

Got a faint positive at 9dpo

Waiting on my Rainbow