Controlling/annoying in laws?

Does your partner support you on this? If so, have him talk to his parents. If they’re still being difficult, just don’t tell them when you go into labor.

You can also tell your nurse, that u dont want any visitors, that's what I did to my ex Iaws, they never cared and wanted to be at the hospital but I told my nurses I didnt want my in laws visiting

So my mil tried to come into the delivery room with my first on a number of occasions & then came in straight afterwards, unknowingly I have never forgiven her! Make your wishes known put it in your birth plan, stay strong it’s your choice and your doing nothing wrong xx

I told the hospital I wasn’t accepting visitors for the first day, I just wanted it to be myself and my husband. They let the front desk know so if anyone tried they denied them entry. Just let the staff know as soon as you get in. Good luck with your little one!

My in laws were like this too. I wasn’t even home a day and my fil started banging on my front door, even jiggling the door knob! I didn’t let him in the house. I called my husband and he dealt with it, bitched his father out! We aren’t speaking with his parents at the moment ( other issues ) . This is your birth and your experience, you make the decisions that is right for you. It’s not about them AT ALL. If they can’t understand that then you need to put your foot down and let them know from your mouth, so they know you aren’t playing around. Good luck mama

Don't tell Anyone besides birth partners obviously when you go into labour, inlaws can't just stay at the hospital for weeks waiting for you to turn up.

I just wouldn't tell them until you are home, settled and prepared to have visits...if they dont know then they cant turn up 🤷🏼‍♀️ or if they find out just lock door with note on saying please dont knock, baby sleeping and switch phones off. They will be pissy but fuck them, you just had a baby, you get to make the rules

Unfortunately I've dealt with this nightmare my last birth. This time; I'm honest to god alerting the nursing staff and security at the hospital that MIL is in no way allowed to visit me or the baby while we are there. They have security down pretty stiff at my hospital and that should keep her away. Last time she was so pissed she wasen't allowed in the birth room (because I only wanted hubs and my mother like a normal human) she was calling & cussing out my husband even after it was emergency c section, kid spent a week in NICU after nearly dying and my husband and I were going through the most traumatic time of our lives. She was so god damned shitty saying fucked up shit while we were so vulnerable, I had to emergency find new daycare plans for after mat leave cuz I wasen't gunna let that witch be near my child.

Been there done that. We just didn't tell them when we went to the hospital 😁 when we were ready to have them we called.

I didn't want my mother in law in the Delivery room but she was anyways n made a big scene nurses had to tell her to leave the room . While that was happening she was telling my husband to leave me .n later threatened to take my kid . She wants me to apologize. N she said she didnt do nothing wrong. I don't talk to her since then cuz everytime I do she tells my husband to leave me n to take my kid away.

Just don't tell them you're in labour and wait a few days after baby then say we had the baby 😂 If they don't bother with you they won't know until you tell them. Sounds like a horrible suggestion but if they aren't going to respect your wishes after giving birth and wanting to spend some time with your partner and baby then f**k them 🤷 Honestly does my head in how people can be like that. I was more than happy for my partners parents and siblings to come round the day we got home because they'd supported me my entire pregnancy and i never had any grandparents growing up so i was super excited for my baby and for them as he was their first grandchild but it enrages me how people think they can dictate what YOU have to do. Like naw 😂 tell them to bolt!

I'd tell them straight that they can go if they want but you won't be seeing them. If they show up at your house just tell them through the door that youre not ready for visitors. In laws have no freaking boundaries and need to be dealt with with a firm hand

Wow! So what does your husband say to all this? Does he defend you? I hope he tells them no! If you are both in agreement then what you can do is just don't tell them when you're going into labor. If they still are insistent you know you have the right to refuse visitors at the hospital. I wanted just my husband when it was time to meet our daughter.

If your husband is on your side, you could delay them for a week or so by saying that the baby is taking their time. My child was a week passed her due date.

Do they know what hospital you will be at? I would avoid giving any information- where/when you're in labor etc- tell the nurses only so and so is allowed, and dont tell them when you're home.
Hopefully that can buy some time or they get mad enough to just leave you alone.
If they do show up.at the house (maybe I'm extreme) but I'd say have the doors locked and disconnect the doorbell so they can't bother.

I'm sorry I am so strongly opinionated. My in laws are great, but it's MY parents that can be controlling and very pushy, so we thankfully agreed to not live near them! I know, it's not always an option for everyone. Also my bestie has this mil that just is so opinionated in how she should be doing things with her children and has done a few sneaky things behind her back. This weekend is the children's combined birthday because their birthdays are within a week of each other. I'm holding my breath that the mil doesn't pull something...my friend is nicer than I am. Her husband has tried talking to her but he's afraid to cut her off completely because he still wants the kids to know grandma and grandpa. His dad is great, so for his sake, they try to keep it peaceful. But yeah her mil tried to be on the room too! They told the hospital no one but her partner and her own mother. So her mil had to wait out in the lobby...