What do you miss the most from your pre-mama days?
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Watching a movie at the movie theatre’s. I miss this one since we don’t have family close by and we’re too scared to hire someone. Quick little errands like dropping something off at UPS or running inside CVS. You can’t just leave a baby or a child in the car no matter how quick the errand is. Taking your sweet time getting ready. Nowadays my face is glam but not my hair. Buying things for yourself. Living a guilt-free life. Mom-guilt has been the BIGGEST struggle for me.
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Oh such good things! I totally never even thought of going to the movie theater! And I'm sorry you struggle with Mom guilt! You're doing an amazing job!
Sleep 😭
Nothing is ever quick anymore. There is no more “running” to the store grabbing your wallet and keys. Getting out of the car and going to the store is no longer quick. Lol you lug around everything g baby will need. Lol sleeping. And just those random date nights.
Being able to just go and do stuff if it’s meeting up with friends, going to the gym, running errands, etc. but it also becomes your new normal once kids are here that you forget about that most of the time.
The thing I really really miss is going to movies! It’s so hard to find a babysitter these days. I also miss being able to just get myself ready and just leave the house. These days getting out of the house is an hour plus process.
Being alone. My babies follow me everywhere and most the time sit on my lap while going to the bathroom. Also just picking up and leaving. No diaper bag to pack, no toddler shoes to find, no leaky boobs just going when ever I want! Now a solo grocery store trip makes my day 😂
SLEEP WHEN I WANT TO !! 😂😂
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🙏 yess
Cooking a huge meal.
Spontaneity. Feeling like I want to do something and just doing it. Go for a road trip to the state over just to get a milkshake. Following a whim. I feel like that will never happen again!
I miss not having to wear a bra and breast pads without leaking 😭
Sleeping not to worry to much eating good. Shower. And going out
Sitting at a quiet restaurant, making eyes at my hubby, and eating my food while it's hot! 😂 Also, making noise whenever I want, if you know what I mean. 😏
SLEEEEEEEPPP😭
Just being able to go for a run with my husband to get a milkshake/go to a movie/anything on a whim at 11 pm. Or being able to just say “Want to go to _______ for the weekend?” And just driving away for a couple days.
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Yas👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Aside from sleep, I miss reading and crafting for hours on end. My infant demands my full undivided attention nearly every hour she is awake, so I've not been able to actively engage in any of my pre-baby hobbies again yet.
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I think being able to do whatever you want when you want to do it! Even just going to the gas station really quick or running to the grocery store (for a midnight snack 😉) is a whole ordeal. I stayed at friends house for a “girls weekend” and brought my baby girl with me and it looked like we were packing for a month with all the things I had to bring!! I also miss being irresponsible
Have sex when and as long as you want without interruptions, sleep, drinking wine, and going out for fancy suppers!
I miss sleeping thru the night. So much.
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Totally. Life has to go on and u still need to get things done when they sleep. And i dunno about u but i feel guilty for napping 😂😂
Same! I heard all the comments about sleep while you can, but just found them annoying. I just thought, well duh, having a baby is tiring, but it goes so far beyond that it's really impossible to grasp until you have a little one of your own.
BEING ALONE. Drinking, going out whenever I could, spending money on myself, eating at really nice restaurants. Taking non-rushed showers and bathroom visits. Life will never be the same because you will always have someone that takes priority over everything. You have to care for and provide for them and keep them alive and thriving. All of your energy goes into this new life and your entire mindset changes. But this new life you are sharing is the greatest joy ever.
Sleeping through the night. Keeping a clean home. Being on time. Eating junk without having to share lol. Having a social life.
Getting the nails, brows, and hair done without it being a huge collaborative production... I'm a simple girl... don't ask for too much 😭😭😭
I also miss arriving to appointments on time 😋
Working without feeling guilty...
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THIS
SLEEEEEP!!!!! LOL I have never been a morning person. Working swing and night shift up until mother hood. After two years of Being a parent I still struggle to wake up early... I can not go without coffee...😳😳😳
Dropping everything and changing plans. Being able to just go somewhere without all the crap. Time alone to just do things, getting projects done
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Yes.
Sleep. My career (Gave it up for them. Wouldn’t change that decision, but I definitely miss it!), being able to just go somewhere without having to make sure they are taken care of.
Visiting out of state friends and family yes I can still do it technically but it's a lot more expensive, work and just plain harder to do
Being able to go use the bathroom without someone following me in and asking me 110 questions while having a bowel movement.
Going to the bathroom alone (this esp happens once they can walk).
Being able to just go anywhere. My best friend was in town recently and h her boyfriend and her wanted to go to some places that were 18-21+ and I had to keep waiting for my husband to get home so I could go alone lol
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Sleep. Reading. Shopping.
Sleep and working over time also my old body 😂😂
Just being able to grab keys, purse, phone and leave the house lol Going anywhere is like a major expedition with two lol 😂 xx
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Yes exactly I had a lovely new handbag for Christmas and I have used it once as need a suitcase normally to pack up my two for a day out lol xx
I miss running. I used to get up super early before work to put a few miles in. My hubs works nights and watches the baby all day while I'm at work so asking him to get up early if the baby wakes up (which is more likely than not) isn't really a possibility. Plus I'm so darn tired. And running with a baby stroller is AWFUL!
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Me too!! My body isn’t ready either after having baby number 2 5months ago! I tried starting the couch to 5k and my hips were agony I could hardly walk after 😢 miss it so much for the excercise and opportunity to clear my head!
Couch to 5K... hollahh!
Watching a film and knowing what's going on! 😂 We used to go to the movies a lot. I miss watching new films but I'm too busy to care. 📼
Facials - giving and receiving. It was my job and so relaxing and fulfilling! Now I don't work... it makes me sad sometimes! But now my husband gets all the facials in the world. I gotta keep my hands magic 😉🤣
Go out with some friends! Take a long hot shower alone! Admire your boobs! Have long lovey, romantic sex! Go to the movies or out to eat.
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Lmao! Admire your boobs! That's my favorite advice so far.
Friends, nights out, my horse 🙂
Long baths. Eating without tiny human on my lap. Eating slowly. Sleeping any time I wanted to
Stitching. Having breakfast 😂 Hot coffee! Sex. 😭😂
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I think I’ve had about 3 hot coffees in the last 12 weeks 😂
Hot coffee!!! It's been cold here and it's been matched with cold coffee. Yay me
I miss staying up late to watch tv, I miss spending more time with my partner and I miss my sleep so much but I wouldn’t change being a mom to my beautiful daughter for even a day☺️.
Being able to take a nap without timing it. Sometimes you try to take a nap when your kid naps...but that’s the only time you can get anything done at home..
Sleeeeeep
Being able to work and having my own income! Other then that I love being a mommy! I wouldn’t give it up for the world. Things that you could take an hour doing are now done in less then 10- 20 mins definitely learned time management!
Being able to leave the house without having to bring a million and one things with you 🙈
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I know I’m gonna sound like the annoying one but: nothing. I was so ready for a baby.
Get out of the house as much as possible doing absolutely anything lol because soon enough you’ll be inside all the time and if you want to go anywhere, you’ll be packing up a baby and lugging around the carrier and stuff anywhere you go. Some days you’ll skip the Walmart trip just because of it, I know it sounds silly but it’s real! Lol. And definitely go on as many dates as you can and truly just enjoy each other’s presence and attention, because it’ll all be focused on the baby soon.
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Aw! Such good advice.
Sleeping in on the weekends Going out with friends whenever I wanted to Having “me” time
Going to the movies. I havent been in 3 years and watching a movie at home isnt as much fun. I miss the popcorn and slurpees😂
Sleep, and going out with my husband without having to make arrangements,
Thanks! Learning how to cope with it still 😭