Overbearing mother In law

Oh god the horror 😖 i couldnt think of anything worse!

You can tell the hospital not to let certain people see you til after birth.

My crazy bio mom was literally dragged screaming out of the hospital cuz she requested to see me (I had specified NO visitors) and when they told her I didn't want visitors, she started going down the halls opening all the doors and yelling my name 🤦😂

You tell the nurses who is allowed in the delivery room and tell them that mil might try and make an appearance. Usually, they won’t even let her on the floor if you say no visitors.

Okay so no matter where you give birth, you have every right to choose exactly who is with you. If you choose to have a hospital birth, do not tell her you’re in labour and let the hospital staff know that under no circumstances is this person allowed in the hospital while you are giving birth/in labour. They will make sure to keep her away.

Just don’t tell anyone until the baby is here. You’re not going to want anyone in and out of the room. Plus if she knows your in labor she will end up telling everyone and everyone will want to come. So I wouldn’t tell

Oh my god, you are joking? The midwife won't let her in don't worry. And tell staff you don't want visitors. How selfish of her. It's your time and your decision!

U tell the hospital what u want and they will not let her in as the health of the mother and baby r their top priority they arent gonna wanna have u stressed and anxious when bringing a baby into the world should be a pleasant experience, we didnt tell my partners mum i was n labour lol didnt tell her our due date, didnt tell her when she was born we waited abit

Your husband should be the one telling her no if she’s being like that.

Also she wants to be the first one to hold the baby? How selfish can you be?

Set healthy boundaries. And if she disregards them, the nurses are great at protecting them as long as you tell them. I've also noticed that some hospitals up here have specific rules how many people are allowed in the room so that may work in your favor. And as far as first holding the baby, she can hold up. I get the excitement, but mama should always be the first to hold the baby in my opinion. I wasn't allowed to hold my baby (C-section) first but made my husband promise me that no one else got to hold her until I got back to my room.

If she is not respecting the boundaries you are trying to set then perhaps have your husband talk to her. It’s good that you are speaking up.

If she wants to come to the hospital just tell her to wait in the waiting room. If you don't want people in the room tell the nurse and they wont allow anyone in

I had close family there and when the ob came in or when it was time to have my child they waited in the waiting room and waited 1+ hours afterward while we did skin to skin

It’s 100% your choice

I agree that the hospital won't allow her in. But what is going on with your husband? It's his place to tell his mother no. And he needs to make clear to her that YOU are the baby's mother. You and husband need bonding time with the baby. She will continue to overstep until he stands up to her.

Let the hospital know and they won't let her in unless you say its ok.

She can’t be there if no one tells her when you go into labor! And later you can just say it all happened so fast. Just make sure your husband is on board too with not telling her.

Just don't tell her when you are in labour 🤷‍♀️ I'd just ring/message once the baby is here.

Put your foot down now because it’ll only get worse once the baby is here. Trust me, my in laws flipped once I got pregnant. It was so weird, they got really controlling

Put your foot down before the baby gets here because it only gets worse after that. My in-laws flipped after I got pregnant. We used to have such a loving and comfortable relationship and once I got pregnant they started questioning how we were going to raise our baby and after my daughter came, it got even worse. My husband and I finally put it all out there but it was kind of too late. Our relationship has not been the same since that giant argument 😕 I always say that you never know your in-laws until you have a baby 😬

You can most definitely request the front desk staff to not allow anyone in besides who you allow. If your mother in law or anyone else decides to interject they can be either thrown out of the hospital or worse, arrested if they choose to cause a scene. We told no one when we arrived at the hospital . We called and texted once baby and I were rested enough for visitors . Good luck mama

Dont tell her when u go in! My mil would have been cutting me open to get baby first but we didnt tell her until after baba arrived and she was only allowed down next day. She still bitches about it behind my back now but hey ho. Nice to my face but blocked me on fb and Whatsapp 😂👍🏻 I get a quiet life so win win. Its your baby, your labour, your choice!! She needs to back off and learn some boundaries.

It’s your choice, end of. You can hide behind midwives, generally maternity units are on lock down so you have to be buzzed in. They’ll just deny entry.
Also, labour can be a long business and you don’t need the stress on everyone nagging whether it’s here yet’. Tell you OH he needs to respect your wishes as anxiety is definitely counterproductive when it comes to squeezing out a tiny human!

How will she know you’re in labor ? I didn’t tell anyone but he people I wanted to reach out , my partner respected my decision that I only wanted him there and my mom and sister in the waiting room I would not tell her you’re going into labor or are at the hospital