Egg donor ?

After finding out I was in early menopause back in November, my husband and I discussed our options and actually decided we wanted to use a donated embryo. We elected not to use an egg donor and his sperm because it seemed weird to me to have a baby that was half his and half somebody else’s. In a weird twist of fate though, I randomly conceived naturally and am currently 25 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby that is genetically ours. What are your hesitations with using a donor egg?

Ooh we are just waiting to sign our egg donation paperwork- we have been trying for 3 years and had two unsuccessful rounds of IVF. Due to egg quality (based on my age) it was felt that it was pointless doing another round of IVF using my eggs and better odds with a donor. I had no qualms about it as at the end of the day I would be carrying the baby and building a strong bond. Plus this is my only chance to have a child so I am going for it.

One of my closest friends has just had the most gorgeous daughter through egg donation, no one knows and everyone comments how much she looks like her. We asked for a donor of similar height, hair colour, eye colour and pasty white irish skin colour and that is what we have been matched with, she is even the same height and weight.

Always here if you want to ask anything or chat. It is an incredibly isolating and lonely journey x

I’m in a similar place. I went through fertility issues 3 years ago (egg quality and quantity) and when we were just about to start the donor egg process, I got pregnant naturally. We have been trying for baby #2 with no luck for a year and are about to re-start the egg donor process. My hesitation was always a concern that the child would be confused or feel different. I’m hoping to work through that in the psychology phase

I know someone who did egg donor and she couldn’t be happier (and I swear the kids look like her) we had 2 miscarriages and did 3 rounds of IVF - luckily we got 1 healthy embryo, but prior to that and if we want a second child it will have to be egg or embryo donor or adoption. I did a lot of research on egg donor and decided I would get someone who looked like me and while it’s not medically proven there has to be some parts of you in the baby due to you carrying and the baby growing inside of you. I know a few who agree with me but again it’s not a proven thing.
It’s so so so hard I get it, but like my friend always told me if you want to be a mommy there are MANY different ways to get there and you do what you need to to get your child. Stay strong and positive ❤️❤️

I have a similar story. Many years of trying (started at age 27), 5 failed IUI’s, 2 failed IVF’s (no explanation, hormones are fine, AMH is great, nothing physically wrong, just no pregnancy). I wasn’t ready to let go of dna contribution for years. We chose a donor, and had two perfect embryos.....now we have 4.5 yr old twin boys. 🤗 we are now in the process of starting again (just one this time), with a different donor.

It was only obvious that something was wrong after trying IVF with my eggs. The embryos I produced were very poor (the ones that made it to day 3 anyways). I had qualified for a 90% refund at the start of the cycle because, based on my age, hormones, and tests, I was an ideal IVF patient 🤷‍♀️
It was hard to let go of the idea of my babies being “part of me”. It took 5 years to be ok with donor eggs, but I carried them, birthed them, and fed them. My dad doesn’t know they are from a donor. He thinks one of my boys looks just like him.
Our donor was a new donor. I would suggest picking a young donor if going with an unproven donor. This time around we chose a proven donor (she’s had successful donations that resulted in pregnancies, as well as a previous pregnancy herself).

I'm about to do the same and I've come to realise that my end goal is a healthy baby, and if this is the way I'm happy with that x

Hi ladies, both my husband and are have been TTC for 4 yrs now.
We have been diagnosed with male infertility and I have low AMH.
Our clinic have said we have a 5% chance of conceiving naturally. They suggested IVF with sperm donor which we both found emotionally hard. However I have been researching and now am thinking maybe a sperm donor with a donor egg will give us both an equal footing. I know throughout this whole journey the hardest thing that has been for us is the idea that we won’t go through the feeling of pregnancy togeather if that makes any sense.

I haven't tried with my own as recommended by my doctor, they gave me 10% chance with my eggs and 50 with donor, so we went right for donor as the end goal is a baby for us. Unfortunately it hasn't worked yet. But I do feel it will be part of me somehow, as I will grow and feed it, it will not have my genetics but I will make it, without me it wouldn't exist. I hope that helps x