Struggling with infertility & pregnancy announcements 😞💔

They might have thought that some good news might help cheer you up in your difficult moments. They might not realise how this could upset you further. (sorry just playing devil's advocate). It might be nice to have a chat with your friend and let them know your concerns and thoughts.

Good luck with your journey. Hope you and your family find peace in your difficult times xx

I'm really sorry to hear about your struggles and how hard it must be to be struggling with infertility, pregnancy announcements and grieving as well. Ive not been in your position so I can't pretend to understand how hard it must be but I just wanted to offer my experience of being the friend. One of my closest friends struggled with infertility for years before deciding to stop trying. When I found out I was pregnant I told her in the most sensitive way I could. I thought about it for a long time and didn't want her to find out from anyone else. My little boy is now 14 months and I've only seen her twice since I found out I was pregnant. She has always been very polite but I know me falling pregnant was a massive struggle for her and it has in effect cost us our friendship. We still send birthday cards etc but I really wish she hadn't hidden how she was feeling. I wouldn't have cared if she told me she was sad or even angry that I was pregnant and don't ever for a second feel you have to pretend.

My sister is pregnant and i feel the exact same way although I’m so happy for her and will be made up when the baby is here i cant help but feel a little bitter and jealous that it isn’t me, i didn’t even want to go to the gender reveal because i was so annoyed😒
i just expect everyone around me to start announcing their pregnant these days and I’m prepared for it but it still hurts so much don’t ever think its going to happen for me, the shit we put ourselves through and we get nothing in return😞
fingers crossed one day it will happen for us 🧡

It must be very hard to have to deal with it 😞 and I’m sorry you are feeling this way. But like you say no matter how people say it, it will still be hurtful. My sister in law has been struggling for past 2 years and I have been thinking about how can I tell her that I’m pregnant. I will try to do my best to be gentle, but I’m afraid she will be hurt and upset in any case as there is unfortunately nothing I can do to help her 😞🙏🏻 I’m sure your friends were thinking about your feelings as well, but how else can you word it not to upset someone...

I feel you on the running away and not hearing any news! I’m fed up of hearing other people’s easy journeys whilst struggling. I’ve just been very abrupt and sending very standard congrats messages back. I guess we’ll come round to it but I don’t care if that’s the way I feel!

I feel and felt the same a couple months ago my husbands gran had died and we were struggling even hearing anyone talk about being pregnant or anyone asking when are you going to have a baby was like a knife to the stomach every time there's only some of my family that know we have been trying for 2 years and none of his know but continue to ask about when we will have a baby. It breaks your heart everytime you see people with there babies too 💔 I feel for you, here if you want to talk x

I’m really sorry to hear about your husbands nan ☹️ 💔.

Your post has really hit home.
I had a miscarriage late last year at 9 weeks and I struggled over Christmas and cried a lot in the pub to a few friends (the drink didn’t help at all).
Then literally two weeks later one of them blurted (and I mean it came out so randomly mid convo) to me and another friend that she was pregnant. She was only 4 weeks! I literally went home and sobbed so much- she was so brutal talking about her symptoms. To make matters worse for me she knew we were seeing the fertility specialist and I am undergoing tests which is stressful! I kid you not when I say she’s spent the entire time since moaning about her pregnancy, moaning she can’t drink, sending bump pics and all around just talking about herself, not ONCE asked me if I’m even any further with my own journey acknowledged anything. Your post makes me feel less ashamed to feel so angry about her insensitivity, so THANK YOU. 🥰

Yep, I feel the same. Unfortunately over the years. I have needed to distance from people, to keep me focused. It’s not always the right thing. But it’s the only way I could cope x