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3 years ago

Bit of an awkward Q..

So if you've had miscarriages and an abortion, do you count the abortion on your "angel babies" list? Does it depend on how far along you were? There's no right answer, I'm just wondering what y'all's thoughts on this are💜
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3 years ago

I do consider my abortion an angel now of mine.

3 years ago

I had a failed abortion where I took a pill to terminate but it didn’t work, then I had to have the baby surgically removed. I also contracted sepsis due to the failed termination. I count this as an angel baby because I feel like he or she was a fighter, I was in hospital for some long days and nights very very ill and felt immense regret and loneliness. I fell pregnant 2 months later (on protection) and knew that it was Gods plan for me to have a baby and now I have my beautiful rainbow baby. My son was also born during the hight of the pandemic in England and one way we as a nation stood together was by putting rainbows in our windows, so driving home from hospital with my son seeing rainbows littering the streets confirmed this for me 🌈 Thanks for listening that feels very good to get off my chest.

3 years ago

I think it depends on the woman and circumstances. I was forced into an abortion by my ex at 18, and I consider that little one on my angel babies list

3 years ago

I like reading all of your thoughts and feedback! It's always interesting to see different perspectives! My first I don't consider a loss because I don't want to acknowledge that pain. It was a pregnancy from rape/incest and that alone was painful enough to admit. I guess the way I get over it is by telling myself it wasn't really a loss because that pregnancy never should have been. This time I'm wrestling with it a lil... On one hand I wanna call it a loss because it was a child conceived out of love, not assault. I didn't necessarily "want" to abort, but I had to because I just had a c-section and was told that I would have very high chance of uterine rupture. So idk, it's kinda a loss, in a sence but also kinda feel bad calling it an angel baby because I don't want to make it seem like this wasn't my decision...like, I don't want to take away from anyone who's had a different experience, or disrespect anyone who has had miscarriages. 🤷

3 years ago

Interesting comments, I had what was called a 'missed' miscarriage. So had to go for treatment not so much to terminate the pregnancy but, the treatment I recieved was a what happens when women have an abortion. So although I have never actively chosen to end a pregnancy, I can empathise with what women may go through. Not only physically but the emotional side of coming to terms with the end of a pregnancy. Sometimes we make choices that at the time were right for us at that time of doing. Yet, the loss that we may feel is still the same. Just because, a women actively decides to abort a their pregnancy does not mean that they don't or won't feel loss. Yes, they'll be comfortable with their choice but, they can & may still grieve for that baby that they may have had if they decided to go ahead with the pregnancy. @Echo to answer your question, yes I think that an abortion can be an Angel Baby x

3 years ago

I count my abortion as an angel baby. It was not my choice I was a child when I got pregnant. It was my mothers and the child’s father choice. I was too young and weak to fight. But I agree with above, depends on the intention

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3 years ago

Then it is definitely your angel and rainbow baby. Because your heart wanted them and the choice to terminate wasn’t yours. ❤️

3 years ago

I think it all depends on the intention. I had an abortion when I was 22 and I wouldn’t count it because at the end of the day I made the choice to terminate FOR ME and while I harbor some sadness about it I don’t treat it as a loss. But when I was TTC and I we had a chemical pregnancy at like 4-5 weeks, it hit me to the core and that loss I felt with ever fiber of my being.

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