I’m 25 and we have been together for 5 months. I just found out I’m 5 weeks pregnant and have a dr appointment next week. I had a miscarriage when I was 20 so I’m not sure if I should wait until after the dr says everything is ok or wait until I’m past the first trimester to tell him. Our relationship is so new I don’t know how he will take the news and I don’t know what to do.
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Tell him! It's his baby too, my husband came to every appointment, not because I asked him to, but because he just wanted to

I wouldn’t wait until the 2nd trimester to tell him. I think that’ll be too much of a shock.

Definitely tell him. Even though it’s new, if you wait too long he may feel “betrayed” and you never know how he’ll react. If he’s super happy then great! If he’s not so happy then it gives you guys time to discuss the future of your relationship and not waste time

You should tell him now for sure

I’d tell him, but also express your worries.

Tell him now. :)
Me and my boyfriend were together 3 weeks when I got pregnant ! Was a complete shock. But he was happy and looked forward to coming to all the appointments

Tell him 💚

Miscarriage can be hard. But don't put that weight all on you. I agree to tell him and evaluate your relationship. Good luck. I wish you positivity ♥️♥️

I agree to tell him now! The first day that I met my boyfriend was actually the first day that I started my last period so of course that’s the day they base the pregnancy on 🤦🏻♀️ now we are living together and have fallen in love and very excited about the baby..he will be in shock but that will fade and then it will be exciting!!

Tell him! You both need time to process this together. My aunt and uncle were together for a month when she found out she was pregnant. They are still together for 25 years, married with 2 grown kids. You never know what will happen.

I went through the same thing. I had a miscarriage 3 years ago and I was so scared to tell my daughters father I was pregnant as we had only been together a few months too. I think you need to do what you feel is right for you. Give yourself a few days to think it over. I asked my ex to not tell anyone until I was at least 12 weeks and it did cause a bit of an argument as I guess he was in shock and wanted someone to talk to about it but I opened up and explained I had a miscarriage and didn’t want to go through telling anyone until I had seen her and knew she was ok. X

Tell him straight away, you need to go through this together.

Tell him, keeping it a secret might cause you more stress or worry that you don't need.

wait until after your doctors appointment and go from there. But best to tell him earlier on rather than wait until the second trimester.