Can attachment increase at 4.5 months if it’s weak?
Maybe I’m taking it too personally, but I’m worried my baby girl isn’t attached to me. She rarely smiles at me and I have to work SO hard for it. She smiles at her daddy way more often.
When I’m playing with her, sometimes she interacts with me, but other times she’s way more interested in objects and I can’t get her attention. It’s like 50/50.
With attachment theory, can it increase at her age (almost 5 months) as we keep spending time together or is there like a window of attachment happening that’s closed?
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I felt the same way early on with my daughter. I noticedmy daughter become more excited towards me around 6 months. I work full time and she is stuck to me like Velcro the moment I get home and through the weekends. If I need to get anything done I have to distract her otherwise she’ll have a meltdown (those are fairly new)
Once she started crawling (between 5/6 months) she would zoom to the front door when she heard the car alarm and wait for me.
Im sorry i have no advice but i thought the 2 pacifiers on the head were scrunchies and hair 🤦♀️😂 i was about to say, your baby has ALOT of hair
My toddler always favored my husband more for some reason as a small baby, but one day switched and was attached to me. Now she will be super attached to one of us one month and the next the other. She is more overall a daddys girl though and my now 5 month old only wants me and never my husband.
I have felt the same way, but I think it is because you ARE attached to your baby that you feel this way. I constantly compare myself to my husband with the baby. I feel like he can calm her down way faster than I can. But it’s because as moms we worry more about our babies and crave a deeper connection. What’s helped me is taking baby out while wearing her and going on little adventures together. We go for walks and it helped me feel confident in our bond. Covid makes it hard but I promise your baby loves you and is attached!!
Yes it can get better!! My daughter was the same way she would cooh an smile with my husband and not me it was difficult for me especially since our breastfeeding journey didn’t go well. But 6 months hit an crawling an new milestones she was estatic to show off to me! An began wanting n grabbing me
More... every kiddo is different give it time! You got this!
Yes love! Talk a lot to your bubba about everything, sing aswel and hugs hugs! Smell her and caress her 🥰 they grow super fast !!
Can suggest me I have reverse he was attached to me till me 5 months after 6 months he give all attention to his dad he rarely play and smile at me please suggest ?
Some clever person on here explained it's because baby sees you as an extension of herself, and it clicked for me. Until they see you as a separate person they're not that interested, because you're just an extended part of them! Not that they don't love you, but you're so special as to be so close to them that you're one and the same, if you get me?
I would recommend ‘The book you wish your parents had read’ it has great ideas for building attachment with baby/toddler/child
she’s beautiful
my LG saves her best smiles for her daddy, brother, grandad and pops! i think it’s to do with the tone of their voice!
but your baby loves you very much! xx
Don’t forget that babies/ toddlers are more likely to smile at strangers than at you because it’s a ‘show’, a defence mechanism. They don’t feel the need to with the people they are most comfortable with.
I’m an FTM but I’m also a therapist. I would say quality of attachment can always improve across the lifespan! It is particularly significant within the first year of life though.
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