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Have you watched Adam Ruins Everything? In any case, he does a bit on circumcision that I found to be very factual and informative. https://youtu.be/WXq03GicS0w
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I did some research while pregnant and what I kept seeing was that circumcised men have lower rates of bladder infections and stds and uncircumcised men supposedly feel more sexual pleasure. My son was circumcised at the hospital and came home with his penis bandaged like a tiny mummy. There were no issues and it healed easily within a few days.
There’s really no benefit to it. Do all your research. My husband and i did, it ended with us not doing it.
The benefit is it’s more hygienic. No smegma built-up. The cons is it’s not as sensitive as uncircumcised penis. My husband is cut. He wish he didn’t, so we didn’t do it to our 2 sons.
This is a hot debatable topic. Everyone is going to tell you their stories and why they think it’s beneficial or horrible. If it was as horrible say it is, then they wouldn’t be doing it at hospitals. They do it right after the baby is born and they’ll be totally fine about 2 or 3 days later. Don’t choose of off ladies on the internet. Do your own research. I did with my son because I felt like it was best. My husband is and if I have another boy I’ll be doing it to him as well.
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That’s odd. First I’ve ever heard of that.
It’s better to do it as a baby (they won’t remember it) than for them to have to do it when their older because of the higher risk of infection.
There is no real benefit to circumcision. It’s a cosmetic procedure. My SO isn’t and he’s taught me so much about it. As long as you make sure to clean underneath the skin and your boy practices proper hygiene you’ll be fine. I’m not circumcising my son, but it’s ultimately your decision. If you do, go with a doctor you trust💕
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To say there is no “real” benefit is false. There is benefits of lower risk of urinary tract infections, penile cancer, and sexually transmitted diseases. It is mostly cosmetic but it does help in some areas 🤷🏽♀️
Yes because my son got a UTI I had him cut after that.
My son got his done when he was born and it was the most simple thing. I believe in it but thats just me and my experience. I had no complications when he got it done except my baby being soar but it didnt last long
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Agreed
I definitely would my son was done at a two months. My husband was done at 12 years old he wish his mom had did it at a baby his foreskin was getting stuck in his jeans. My son got infection doctor said due to him not being cut I had plan on getting him cut at tax time but I had to get it done sooner my son was in hospital three days due to infection in his foreskin . Pulling foreskin cleaning it real good chance of getting stuck or caught in zip plus just look better cut. I would research the doctor first and find the right one. I honestly think u should get him cut.
I left that decision to my husband. In the end we agreed that my son should look like his father so we chose not to do it.
But I will add it don't matter what we say or anybody but your husband and you tho. I do believe if you pick right doctor you be definitely happy you did it
We simply decided that since my husband is, our son will be to.
Both of my sons have been circumcised... secretly I regret it. Dad was dead set on it bit I wasn't sure. Go with your gut, if you don't feel it's something that would be good for you or your family then don't.
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That's what I told her it's between her and her husband not ours. I wanna to get my son cut but I was waiting for my tax check he got UTI twice due to been uncut finally borrow the money got him cut no more UTI since .
We chose not to and my husband will teach him proper hygiene as well as myself . To each it’s own. No one way is better than another . Your son can have a circumcised penis and still have bad hygiene . Just educate your kids on proper hygiene .
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I actually didn’t read what you wrote so yeah I’m making a statement that’s not directly related to anyone . It’s my personal opinion . ThAt is why I wrote to each it’s own ....
Not sure about anyone else but I wasn't saying that tho not sure if you was just posting or to me so no shade . I was just saying he got UTI twice after cut no more. I definitely don't think it make you better just my opinion to cut less issue look better that's all I was saying wasn't put anyone down
People so rude I have said my peace now I have unsubscribed from this post. No need for anyone to be mean to me because I don't agree with there way OMG it's USA. Amber best of luck hope u and your husband can come to agreement I do agree with your husband tho team cut 😂.
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Not sure who your referring to as being rude here . At no point was I rude . I made a statement and it wasn’t directed to anyone . I made a statement in general . If you took it personal that’s on you . I’m not sitting here telling people what to do with their kids . Like I said to each it’s own
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I personally got my son circumcised because my brother is 19 and he is undergoing circumcision later on in the month after years of having being bullied which is insane here in New Jersey USA I guess whatever have been the one person finds out and everybody makes fun of you horrible and not only that he has had a health issues with that undergoing laser and getting several infections due to being in Ressler and into jujitsu.. A lot of friction and just uncomfortable Ness apparently I didn’t want him to go through what my brother went through pretty much so I just tried to spare him any complications and make up later in the life
Personally I find the practice of circumcision very odd. Why remove a necessary and healthy piece of your baby's body? I left my son intact and havent had a single problem in his 13 months. If it becomes medically necessary sure that's different, but I believe body autonomy is important. We don't cut off parts of a girls vulva because they may look strange to us or because she may one day get an infection. People would riot in the streets if that became a thing in the U.S. Remember, the foreskin is there for a reason.
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To add to that, the 2 biggest remaining countries/group that still do this cruel and outdated practice are Americans and muslims. The rest of the world either never started or has made it pretty taboo. Its def slowing in popularity in the USA, just not fast enough. Soon enough itll become taboo there too, and that'll be a happy day.
In that case don't get your ears pierced, get a tattoo, cut your hair, dye your hair shaved under your arms or privates since we can't remove foreskin. Nobody had said anything against anyone not cutting here come dumb dumb putting us down because we decided to cut. Threw I will no longer reply to this. I said my last opinion on this so have fun with out me
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There is obviously a big difference in a person who is capable of making choices about their own body deciding to get a piercing or cut their hair etc. The point is that a baby can't decide to have their foreskin removed i.e. body autonomy.
We got my son circumcised, but it was because it was medically necessary. We have gotten flack for it (people were telling us the doctors were perpetuating medical myths), but we have no regrets about it.
My son did in my stay at the hospital he didn’t during or after and has had no problems since then. He’s 5 now.
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Same with our son, he will be one and no issues
My husband made the decision I was scared to death because I thought he would be in pain! But the doctors said he didn’t cry and a nurse (friend of mine) was there with him and she confirmed he was a trooper! He wasn’t in pain after nor did he cry during the healing process.
If you do decide to get it done just be aware of the possibility of penile adhesions. We pulled our sons back multiple times a day even though dr said once a day was fine and his still started to reattach so at his 9 month appt the dr basically yanked it back to separate it and it was traumatizing. To make things worse it seems to be happening again and is common because this is apparently their chubbiest time😭
I’m very happy that we didn’t have our son circumcised. YouTube has a documentary called: The elephant in the hospital, it’s informative and worth watching.
It's son isn't and neither is my husband. There's no medical need for it most times. I actually have a relative whose little boy needed surgery as a newborn to correct things because he couldn't pee without a catheter after he was circumcised. I figure it's not worth the risk for a typically cosmetic procedure. We'll just make sure to teach him how to clean himself well. His father has never had an infection down there, so I'm sure our son will be fine too. 🙂
Unless medically necessary, why put a baby through that pain/procedure?
My son pediatrician did it .... said the hospitals no longer do it 😕 because doctors where messing up . But he has no problems and it was like 3 mins and healed fast.
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It's not because the hospitals were messing up, it's because the USA pediatrics org said it's not medically necessary. It's right on their site. Peds who encourage it like the money.
That’s what they told me here in Atlanta Georgia.
I feel like “his body his choice”. My husband is and he wonders what it would be like to not be. Ultimately once you do it you can’t undo it, where as he could have it done later if he chose. I don’t understand the men who want their sons genitals to look like theirs. I’m pretty sure I’m the only woman who will see both... probably. I understand if it’s a cultural or religious thing, I just chose not to.
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“I’m pretty sure I’m the only women who will see both... probably.” What 😂😂😂😂
We waited until my son was almost 1 month old (which is the deadline) I'm glad I waited so I was able to bond longer and get my breastfeeding on a better schedule. I realised that I did not like it with the extra skin, constantly having to pull it back and clean it. I was scared of yeast infections. It was scary when he first got it done because of the bleeding and bruising (lasted 2 daysish) I'm very happy we got it, much easier to clean!
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WHAT?!!! You are never to pull an infants foreskin back, that's how you painfully rip the foreskin from the head and introduce it to infections and uti. Who on earth advised you to do that? The child will separate the foreskin from head on their own once the body is ready for it. Pulling it back to clean doesn't start until closer or into the teen years.
We didn’t circumcise our little man - my partner was conflicted at 1st bc he is. We read up on it and it just isn’t necessary and only became a popular secular practice bc it was supposed to dissuade masturbation. So we decided to leave him in tact and I’m really happy that we did!
Go watch a video of circumcision in infants and then decide. It’s terribly cruel in my opinion. The body was designed with foreskin for a reason.
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Would it be better if just leave it alone; so when they are all grown up they can decide if they want to be circumcise. But if choose not to do it you have to teach them how to properly clean it. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
My son is circumcised and it’s the best decision I ever made. I was changing a friends son a while ago and her son wasn’t snipped and his whole penis was so swollen and red because she had never cleaned it or pulled the skin slightly back and clean it that now at 2years of age she has to get him circumcised because he gets infection upon infection. My son was circumcised for medical reasons aswell as personal and religious. My son was in pain for a couple of hours but that was it. Swelling went down, no blood and now it looks awesome. I know that sounds weird to say because I’m his mum but I honestly don’t regret doing it. If I ever had another son I would do it. Circumcision is a personal choice and so many mothers get ridiculed for doing it. It drives me nuts. We should be supporting each other not tearing each other down because of a choice of wanting information. I feel sorry for friends son because now instead of taking a couple of weeks to heal it’s going to take Atleast 6months with pain medication.
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Just an fyi. You aren't suppose to pull the forskin back on a child, ever. There is nothing to clean until closer or into teenhood. If someone does it while the child is an infant, they become a high risk of infections, and cause great pain as the forskin is attached to the head. Too many peds in the USA dont know that, as they refuse to continue their education. So the peds cause so many problems with intact boys. Some boys do naturally have issues, but the number is extreamly low.
I think it’s fine, personally if I was having a son I would circumcise him.
It's no longer covered by insurance companies because it's a cosmetic procedure. My husband is cut and wishes he wasn't. So our two boys are not cut. Can you imagine girls getting the most sensitive part of their vagina labia cut off? That is how it is for baby boys. It's barbaric practice in my opinion.
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And it is still covered by insurance companies, still. To this day.
Julia, sadly its only like that for some ins companies in some states. Otherwise ins companies still pay for it. I'm sure it wont be covered at some point, like it isn't everywhere else.
I have to say even in other countries they don't circumcise. It's only here in the US that it's done the most.
Having been with an uncircumcised man I know off topic but it's 100 times better than being with a cut man. There is a reason that skin is there ladies! Has lots of functions and purposes.
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Let’s agree to disagree on that one 😂😂😅
Julia, agree 110%. WOOBABY! lol
Alright, so, personally; I think this is a really bad topic to put out there in a mom group. There are SO many strong opinions on this- none of these people know you, or your baby. My best advice is to talk to people close to you about it. Ask males their opinion on it too. I went to high school with a guy who was uncircumcised (he played football, guys poked fun at him in the locker room), and he was very vocal about how he wished his parents would have had it done. It is a very, very big deal to have a circumcision done later in life. Can it be done if he chooses? Of course, absolutely. But it’s not the same simple quick procedure it is as a baby. I had my son circumcised at 4 weeks, 6 weeks is the latest they allow (after that you have to go to a urologist). I let my husband decide. It was really quick, healing was very quick and easy also. I have no regrets. That being said, this is a really personal decision and you should do what you feel is best. Whatever you decide, you’re a great mama 💗
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This was a good response, because it was basically what I was about to say. I was going to mention that people will have strong views about either way, but ultimately it is your son and the decision and repercussions if there may be any will be by and for you and your family only. None of us except for you will be responsible for the aftercare if you go through it and none of us except for you will have to answer to your son when he asks why you didn’t get it done when he was little? One of my nephews is not cut, and he is an athlete and has for sure dealt with some locker room mild teasing. He has mentioned a few times that he wished his mom had it done when he was younger. His brother had it done when he was 13, it is some cultural thing that is not as strictly followed nowadays as it used to be and so she could have done it when they were babies. My husband and I personally decided to do it with our boys and it wasn’t as bad as I thought. They healed in less than a week and the
Aftercare wasn’t as stressful as I thought it would be. When and if you do research, whatever you do, don’t look at the pictures online! Whatever decision you choose, just feel good that you had the option to decide :) Good luck!
Show him the images on yourwholebaby.org
In regard to comments about it "only being done in America" It's done throughout both Jewish and Muslim communities around the world. In regard to comments about "what if it was done to women" That's a thing too in some cultures. I recently read an article about a tribe in Africa where young women choose to have their clits removed as a rite of passage. They believe all bodies are androgynous until circumcised. If you don't want to circumcise, whatever that's fine. But what I'm seeing a lot of on this thread is non circumcising moms attacking circumcising moms even after they tell stories of boys healing easily and without issue. My circumcised son merrily plays with his penis and must have plenty of sensation because he giggles whenever I wash him there. I seriously doubt he will grow up to hate me and tell me he wishes he had a foreskin.
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That’s me 🙋🏽♀️
I'm seeing both groups attacking each other, not just one of them. I see moms who chose to circumcise calling the others f---ing crazy and I see moms who chose not to yelling about body mutilation to moms who chose yes. It's a personal choice. State your choice so the original poster can get an idea of why moms are choosing either for and against and move on. 😒 People are so childish when it comes to opinions. There's no right or wrong here.
I personally don’t do it but to each their own.
I am pregnant atm and if it's a boy I will circumcise. It's so much more hygienic and can prevent many infections. Also never heard of anyone wishing they weren't circumcise
My husband was the same until he did the research himself! We ended up choosing not to circumcise!
I wouldn’t personally, but you have to decide what’s best for your child/family. I don’t make it a habit to worry about other people’s genitals.
To each their own body. Meaning it's not a parental decision how someone's penis is the rest of their life. Men can only give an opinion on which one they've experienced, and there's a lot of bad information here. I'd stick with the facts about body autonomy and circumcisions benefits in itself verses the risks (as in more babies die per year from it than men need it medically later on). There's plenty of info on the long term psychological damage vs the minor health benefits it has (as in women have 9x the infections of both cut and intact men). If you wouldn't dream of cutting your daughter, it seems backwards to consider doing it to a son. Try the video Elephant In The Hospital, if you can't watch a video of a fresh baby boy being restrained down and having skin torn off, then maybe go with your heart
My little boy was circumcised when he was born. It didn't bother him at all. It is completely up to you what you do for your child. Everyone has their own opinion. I let my hubs take the lead on the choice since he's the male. Follow all care instructions and everything will be fine. If you choose to not then make sure to talk to your pediatrician about taking care of his penis and cleaning instructions. Good luck and congratulations on your little!!
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I would suggest you askyour husband to read the facts both pros and cons an ask him to organise it if he still wishes to proceed. My husband wanted our boys done until I said that it was up to him to organise it but I asked him to do research and be well informed, with his research he decided it wasn’t worth the risk and for us. I think if you both make a well informed decision you are making a good choice (with everything in parenting) :)
Nope. I have a boy and not circumcised.
My personal opinion is that circumcision is an unnecessary pain to put a newborn through first thing when they enter the world (emotional memory is stronger than recall memory!) , as well as research showing that theres a higher risk of a circumcision being more detrimental to their health than the possibility of an uncircumcised penis becoming infected due to poor hygiene. That’s actually a lot less common than people assume.. BUT I do agree that it makes sense for a boy to match his father (although if you are against it yet circumcise for this reason only, the cycle will never end) and am realistic in the matter that millions of boys have gotten circumcised and they turned out fine.
Like the others mamas said, it’s a very personal decision to make. And from researching, you’ll have to go with what feels right for you. My little one is circumcised. We did it, literally couple of days after he got back home from the hospital. He cried for a couple of seconds during the procedure and fell right back asleep (just got woken up at the time). As long as the cleaning process is thoroughly followed, everything will be absolutely fine. The choice is really yours guys. Good luck and congratulations on your little angel. 💐
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Also, the best time to do it (If you ever decide to) is when they’re young. They heal so much faster and better. And the fact that they’re not as active as well, will help them coping and avoid any rubbing due to moving etc.
We had our baby circumcised. They numbed him up and everything went well, he didn’t even cry. It took a couple weeks to heal up and I think it was a great decision.
This was so helpful to watch thank you!!💕