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i have 2 brothers they and lots of there friends are and like it and are happy
We had the procedure. Only “bad”/scary for the first 24 hours but he healed great and fast! I seen more pros with the procedure than not. Good luck mama, neither choice is wrong
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My son is circumcised Because that’s what my hubby wanted. I was dead against it. But one of my close friends son had to have an emergency circumcision when he was older due to a complication and I was so very thankful we did it when he was a newborn. Because that poor little boy was in so much pain
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Yes I did nurse my son and I’m currently nursing my daughter
My son was circumcised when he was 2 days old. Procedure took less than 5 minutes. He came back calm with no issues and healing was quick and he showed zero symptoms of being in any pain. 🤷🏻♀️. He was done at a military hospital and they said 98% of boy babies are circumcised there. If you are going to do it, earlier is better. To each their own.
Please watch American circumcision on Netflix. It is a COSMETIC procedure that greatly reduces natural function and sexual pleasure for both partners.
It’s genital mutilation. If you wouldn’t remove your daughter’s clitoral hood you shouldn’t remove your son’s foreskin. It’s not medically necessary at all. It’s an elected cosmetic procedure. It’s not even covered by insurance. If you think your son is born perfect you should mean all of him.
Not necessary. But your choice entirely.
I have one boy who’s circumcised, he’s 13 and my 7 month old isn’t. It’s fine either way. You’ll make the choice that’s right for your family.
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Soo I struggled with this also and I too did not know what I was having . After reading and informing myself I decided against it. Listen to yourself and do what you feel is right! This is just the beginning of everyone having an opinion! This is your baby. Whatever you decide I’m sure it will be what you feel in your heart is right. Good luck !
You lovely women are blowing up my phone. 😂 I have two sons (twins)...I did a LOT of research. Unless it’s medically necessary, it seems silly to remove a piece of our child. When we say he’s “born perfect”, we should mean it. However, if you have circumcised, that’s fine! It doesn’t make you a bad mom. It doesn’t make you abusive. We’re all Making the best decisions we can for our kids:) google it and you will probably not find any solid reasons to do it. No mater what you choose, it’s the right choice for you and your family!
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@Molly hi! I have a baby boy that I chose not to circumcise. He’s now 15 months old and I wanted to ask moms with boys who are not circumcised how and around when it is normal for their little tip to open up and separate? Forgive me, I have no clue of the terminology, my first baby. But my husband talks about it and he says it should at some point separate…what is this process like, and is there anything you have to do specifically to help with that process? Thank yoi!!!!
It’s usually not necessary but it’s your decision.
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Cause he is an infant and can’t make any decisions 😂😂😂
Why isn't it the descion of the owner of the penis? #HisBodyHisChoice
Do what you feel is right. HOWEVER they have linked uncircumcised men and a higher chance of penile cancer. Another argument in favor of circumcision is that my son’s father had to have an emergency circumcision at 14 years old and if you want to talk traumatizing?!?! THAT IS TRAUMATIZING(NOT when they can’t remember). All who are not in favor please google phimosis(😂hate me later). I’m a nurse and have countless men in the ED telling me their dick is going to fall off, it is extremely painful. Also, teaching a boy to clean himself thoroughly sounds awful 😭.
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If you're a nurse, you should educate yourself some more. No medical orgnazition in the world recommends it. AAP's stance is bullshit too with their "benifets outweigh the risks" but if you read the rest of what they wrote, they say multiple times that they basically dont actually know what the risks are. So their entire statement is complete and utter lies. Please, if your in the healthcare field, educate youself some more and dont follow the social norm. Science and evidence are constantly updating. So you need to constantly be updating to the correct info as well. Not just what you were taught when you went to school.
Both my boys are circumcised and they’re perfect. No problem whatsoever.
I had a boy and for religious reasons he got circumcised and I’m not going to sugar coat it... it was really heartbreaking to see him cry and yes he was in pain for a day but he healed very well! I also have a newborn and he too will be circumcised! Some get it done for medical, religious reasons or just because they want too. If you want to get it done for whatever reason then get it done but everyone is always going to have an opinion on such a delicate topic but it’s up to you! It doesn’t matter if you get it done or you don’t.
We did it and our son is perfect. The procedure went well and he only cried for a minute afterwards, and the healing time and process went well as well. Everyone has an opinion.
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It matters because?
Wow... people sure have lots to say! Soooo are you having a boy?! Lol
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Yes!! Our pediatrician did it on our boy in the first 24 hours (it's what they recommend) and had no problem, I couldn't see he was in pain or any discomfort at all and the ring he had around the tip fell 15 days after. My husband proposed to me (cause he is also) when we find out it was a boy and I think it was best. Don't get stressed out yet if you don't know the gender yet but I do think man knows a little more about the subject in my opinion. Good luck!!
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How do you know it's painful if you have no experience yourself? Dont shame moms for THEIR decision for THEIR children.
No. Never
My husband is circumcised and our son isn’t. He educated himself on his own and came to that conclusion. He feels offended he doesn’t have his foreskin. Look it up with your husband and educate yourself together then have a discussion. I know a friend of mine who’s husband decided it wasn’t right after being dead set on it.
We got our son circumcised which was recommended by our pediatrician as our son has bilateral hydronephrosis which means he is more likely to get UTI’s and to get very ill because of them. so medically it was recommended. The procedure was quick and and my son cried for about a minute. The healing process was rather quick too which healed in a few days with no complications. It is a very personal decision. Don’t let anyone else make you feel guilty for your decision. Just as long as you do your own research and are comfortable with what knowledge you have, you will do what’s right for your son. Good luck x
My partner and I argued over this. I’m happy to chat! Just message me!
We did it and our son is perfect. It’s honestly not as bad as everyone claims. This topic gets crazy and some people get so triggered by the mere mention of circumcision so be careful and take everyone’s opinions with a grain of salt
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...making an irreversible decision to remove part of a person's sex organ for your aesthetic without their consent... Just why do it? Why rob your son of the decision? Could you imagine this conversation if we were talking about a girl's clitoris?
"Not as bad as everyone claims" It's a cosmetic procedure done on unconsenting minors. It's a human rights issue.
I’m having a baby boy and my partner wanted to get him circumcised and we went to our antinateal classes and the lady talked about circumcising and said it’s not popular these days and they don’t do it at the hospitals anymore you have to go find a proper doctor that will do it and not many will these days unless for medical reasons, I think that their born with it , it should be their we don’t go getting things removed off us girls I think as long as you teach them how to clean properly they will be fine
Yep. Had it done and no problems. If I have another boy, he'll get it done too.
No. His body, his decision when he's a grownup.
Analogous to ripping off a newborn’s fingernail so I would say no.
Yes but make sure you pull the skin back or the little bit will try to grow over it
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It will retract on its own after at least a year. The skin is supposed to be left as in until it goes on it’s own, otherwise you can cause damage.
I took my son to the hospital over it n that’s exactly what our dr said to do
No ma’am! They didn’t spent 9 months growing a foreskin just to have it cut off. ❤️ our son is perfect, no issues. It doesn’t retract for a few years, so you just wipe it like a finger and you’re done! Easy.
My kid is circumcised. My husband isn’t, and this was his one real wish for our son. He was just fine. I know grown men who had to have a circumcision because the foreskin fused closed, and they’ve said it was the most painful experience and they wished they had been circumcised as a baby, instead of a grown ass man. Do what you feel is best for your kid.
I did not circumcise my son. My husband wanted to but changed his mind after watching the elephant in the hospital video. We decided it wasn’t medically or religiously necessary for our son. My sister has one circd and one intact son. She had regrets after the first, and that also played into our decision. At the end of the day, any decision you make will most likely turn out just fine.
I had a girl, but wouldn't even pierce her ears...so that's my answer I guess 😆
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I had my oldest circumcised as a baby. When he was 3 and 4 he constantly told me that “his peepee hurt”. I had him tested for uti’s and had his penis looked at by doctors but no one could ever tell me what was wrong for sure. One doctor suggested that he may have accidentally lost too much tissue in his circumcision when he was a baby and it was causing him discomfort but that his penis would still function fine so not to worry about it. Finally he stopped complaining around age 5, which was a relief. We did not have my youngest circumcised. He has never had any problems, uti’s, pain, or anything. After cleaning and caring for one of each I can say for sure there is no benefit to circumcision whatsoever when it comes to cleanliness or anything. I wouldn’t take the risk of doing it for no reason. I regret having it done to my oldest. I just did not know any better at the time.
One of the biggest reasons why some have issues with their foreskin is because American doctors ignorantly tell parents to retract at every diaper change. The foreskin should only ever be retracted by the owner of the penis. That will cause issues that frequently result in "needing" to be circumcised later.
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This is good info, i didn’t know this and i bet lots of people don’t! I thought you had to once a day to clean (like at bath time). I’ll definitely be doing more research on how to care but thanks for bringing this up because we aren’t planning to circumcise our son (due January) but having no brothers and a daughter I am super intimidated by the whole penis thing hahah.
Yeah, a lot of people here in the States think this. Basically, at birth til whenever, the foreskin is fused to the penis much the same way your fingernails are to your fingers. Can you imagine separating that? Ugh. Makes me tear up just thinking about it.
Our son was circumcised and it didn’t really bother him. They used numbing jell when they did it. My husband signed off on the consent form well I was in the bathroom at the hospital. I was against it and he was for it. He said he had friends who were uncircumcised and they had a lot of problems that he did not want his son to have.
I was in the hospital when they asked if i wanted my son circumcised and I had no idea what to do since the father wasn’t in the picture. It wasn’t anything I had really thought of until the nurses asked after he was born. So I immediately did some research, and asked ALL the men in my family (6uncles and 5 male cousins) what they’re opinion was, since they know what it’s like to have a penis I get it was more appropriate to get a males perspective. All of them, including the ones who weren’t circumcised said to lean more towards doing it because of health reasons they had faced in life with not being circumcised. I don’t find the reason for it being hygienic to be a valid reason to do it. Regardless you still have to clean that area really well cut or not.I did it more for the health factor. :)
Most countries do not circumcise. Do you think ALL of those people have unclean penises? It started as a religious practice. A cruel one, too. It is not needed. Their body was born with it so it should stay intact. And they mess up in the procedure all the time. His body, his choice.
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Well I didn’t read all the comments and is there a rule you can’t comment the same thing? She’s asking for opinions, so I gave mine
It’s deemed medically unnecessary by paediatricians currently. If you’re doing it, it’s for other reasons. We won’t be as I trust both my gp & ob who have recommended against, and I agree with the poster who talked about consent of the child. I didn’t get my daughters ears pierced for same reason. My husband is circumcised, so are his brothers. Yes I agree it looks nice, and yes we will have to explain why daddy looks different. We discussed and he would rather follow what the doctors recommend. They haven’t steered us wrong yet. If baby is born and it’s determined medically necessary we absolutely will have it done without hesitation. You’re the parent so you have to do what you and your partner think is the right and best thing to do for your child 🤷♀️
There is no good or bad or right or wrong answer to this question. The only good and right answer to any question involving a child is the answer/the choice of the parents of that child. This mama is just asking for opinions from experiences, not proof that one decision is better than the other. Moms that oppose circumcision most likely have never had to take care of a boy that had it done and moms who support it, most likely have not raised a son that still have their foreskin in tact. A lot of the reasons for or against this topic on here are not based on personal experiences, rather what they decided to do because of the research videos/articles they have come across or stories from people they know. And people automatically think it is the best decision for everybody. People should share their experiences and just leave it at that instead of fearmongering, we get enough of that outside this mom app. It sounds like
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all boys from the moms that contributed to this post are doing okay whether they had it done or not, so that’s just proof that either decision is okay, it is just really on what you and your significant other feel is right for you and your baby. I think it can sort of compare to ear piercing. Plenty of moms choose to get their little girls’ ears pierced at a very young age. Is that also considered mutilation? Some piercings become infected or is not done right and the holes are in terrible spots. And those girls also cry and usually don’t get a say so in the matter...Not trying to start an argument just something to think about. I apologize for this long reply. Just really confused why a site dedicated for moms to come together is seemingly turning into some sort of mom shaming.
Google Elephant in the Hospital. It's very informative.
Also the misinformation being spread on this post as to why circumcision is "better" is bogus. Do your own research is my best advice, any mom will tell you (aside from regret mom's) why their decision was the best. Circumcision literally changes their brains chemistry, but again do your research and don't worry about "proper hygiene" or infections, intact boys do require different care but it's not harder than those of boys who have been circ'd.
It only takes 2oz of blood for a newborn to hemorrhage, the foreskin has MANY functions. My son will stay intact. I'm big on consent, if he wants it later in life we will pay for it to be done but that's not our decision to make. It is his penis after all. 🤷🏽♀️
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THIS. So much this.
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Watch the documentary ‘American Circumcision’ it will really open your eyes on why you shouldn’t circumcise your son.
Circumcised. Easier to clean for him in the long run. They used a numbing gel. DR said he didn't even cry and when they brought him back to the room, he was sleeping. Follow cleaning instructions and by the end of 1st month its nbd. Good luck!
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My son was also just a few hrs over being a day old when he had it done at the hospital. He had it done in the morning and we left for home by 3pm
I believe its best for hygiene reasons, every mom i know who didn't circumcise says they had infections and problems later on. Just find a great pediatrician and its best to wait till they are around 2 weeks old when vitamin k levels are higher. My son healed great in just a week or so. But personal choice just do research and trust your gut!
We had our baby circumcised. They numbed him up and everything went well, he didn’t even cry. It took a couple weeks to heal up and I think it was a great decision.
Like the others mamas said, it’s a very personal decision to make. And from researching, you’ll have to go with what feels right for you. My little one is circumcised. We did it, literally couple of days after he got back home from the hospital. He cried for a couple of seconds during the procedure and fell right back asleep (just got woken up at the time). As long as the cleaning process is thoroughly followed, everything will be absolutely fine. The choice is really yours guys. Good luck and congratulations on your little angel. 💐
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Also, the best time to do it (If you ever decide to) is when they’re young. They heal so much faster and better. And the fact that they’re not as active as well, will help them coping and avoid any rubbing due to moving etc.
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My personal opinion is that circumcision is an unnecessary pain to put a newborn through first thing when they enter the world (emotional memory is stronger than recall memory!) , as well as research showing that theres a higher risk of a circumcision being more detrimental to their health than the possibility of an uncircumcised penis becoming infected due to poor hygiene. That’s actually a lot less common than people assume.. BUT I do agree that it makes sense for a boy to match his father (although if you are against it yet circumcise for this reason only, the cycle will never end) and am realistic in the matter that millions of boys have gotten circumcised and they turned out fine.
Nope. I have a boy and not circumcised.
I would suggest you askyour husband to read the facts both pros and cons an ask him to organise it if he still wishes to proceed. My husband wanted our boys done until I said that it was up to him to organise it but I asked him to do research and be well informed, with his research he decided it wasn’t worth the risk and for us. I think if you both make a well informed decision you are making a good choice (with everything in parenting) :)
My little boy was circumcised when he was born. It didn't bother him at all. It is completely up to you what you do for your child. Everyone has their own opinion. I let my hubs take the lead on the choice since he's the male. Follow all care instructions and everything will be fine. If you choose to not then make sure to talk to your pediatrician about taking care of his penis and cleaning instructions. Good luck and congratulations on your little!!
To each their own body. Meaning it's not a parental decision how someone's penis is the rest of their life. Men can only give an opinion on which one they've experienced, and there's a lot of bad information here. I'd stick with the facts about body autonomy and circumcisions benefits in itself verses the risks (as in more babies die per year from it than men need it medically later on). There's plenty of info on the long term psychological damage vs the minor health benefits it has (as in women have 9x the infections of both cut and intact men). If you wouldn't dream of cutting your daughter, it seems backwards to consider doing it to a son. Try the video Elephant In The Hospital, if you can't watch a video of a fresh baby boy being restrained down and having skin torn off, then maybe go with your heart
It's hard to make this sound like it's not an attack through text, so please know that it's not! Just curious what pros you saw. Are you comparing it to your other intact child? My son is intact and haven't really thought twice about it or had to do anything special for it.