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Having a baby past thirty

Has anyone had a baby or having a baby past 30? Any advice?

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It is a great time to have baby and if you are healthy, you are healthy regardless of age so don’t worry it is the best time to have baby

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I had my first at 35, not a great experience tbh a very healthy pregnancy until I went into unexplained Labour at 25w. I then had my son at 37, classed as high risk due to a previous micro prem birth but baby boy came at 38w lots of checks but no intervention needed to get to term.

With my daughter I was having a stressful time at work & we’d just moved house so maybe these things played a part. As above said as long as you’re healthy yourself, there’s absolutely no reason why you shouldn’t have a healthy pregnancy & baby. In the UK pregnancies from 40 are classed as more high risk but again, as long as you’re fit and well there’s no reason as to why you shouldn’t have a healthy pregnancy.

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I turned 39 a month after my son was born. I can't say I have any issues with being a mum at this age

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Am 30 nearly 40 am 22 weeks pregnant. This pregnancy as run so smooth no problems apart from being more tired am classed as high risk but I've been told there's no reason I won't go full term and av a normal delivery as am healthy baby doing good. I don't need any extra checkups as things are good.

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Yes I had my first at 23 my second at 24 and now I just turned 31 and pregnant with my third

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I’ve had my children at all different stages of my life. The only difference in 18yrs old and 35yrs old is that you are older, wiser and have more patience. As long as you are/stay healthy your 30’s are a great time for motherhood ❤️

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I had my son 2 days after my 30th birthday and I’ll be almost 32 when my daughter is born. I didn’t meet my husband til I was 26 and now we are stable with a house and steady cash flow etc etc can’t imagine having the kids in my 20s now.
I have had a pretty serious complication in both my pregnancies but nothing to do with my age - they have no idea why it’s happened and I was told it wouldn’t happen again which it did lol. If it hadn’t been for that I’d have been low risk with no additional checkups (except a few extra blood tests to monitor my underactive thyroid)

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Having my first at 31. Everything has gone well, apart from a but if morning sickness in the first trimester, heartburn throughout
My pregnancy, and backache in the 3rd trimester. But, as everyone says, if you are fine and healthy, pregnant will be good, no matter your age

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I had my baby at 41 having conceived naturally. I had a horrendous pregnancy and traumatic birth. However, these were not due to my age and the birth trauma was caused by poor midwifery care.
I think a lot of scaremongering goes on about pregnancy in older ladies which is very unhelpful.

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Ignore them when they politely refer to you as fat and old. Take their health care advice and enjoy it.

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I'm 34 with a 4 month old. Pregnancy was absolutely fine and had a great homebirth. And my daughter is perfect! 😊

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I'm 36 with my first and I am 37 weeks pregnant. I must say this pregnancy has been smooth sailing so far, I guess I have been fortunate but I think at the end of the day, age is just a number.

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I'm 18 weeks into my second pregnancy in my mid 30's.
What kind of things are you wanting to know or talk about?

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Had my baby at 34. My advice is, take care of your joints with good, supportive shoes, and maternity pillow for sleeping. I’m almost 12 weeks pp and my feet and wrist pain is still hanging around! I feel like my pregnancy aged me significantly, my skin, etc. so take it easy as much as you can, eat well and keep active.

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I'm 30 and pregnant with my first. I will be 31 when I give birth.

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There is an entire group dedicated to 30's! Check it out! I'm 42 pregnant with #2 had #1 at 38!

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Pregnant with my first 1 at 31, should arrive just before my 32nd bday :) & plan to have another one before I'm 35.. seemed like the perfect time to me, I've really enjoyed my 20s and now feeling nice and stable and will be able to focus on being a mum without any fear of missing out on other things!

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My little boy is a month old tomorrow, I’m 32. No real advice just practice squats and try to remain flexible lol. The older we get the stiffer we get

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30 for my first born, 34 when I miscarried and 35 when I give birth in Aug to my currently cooking child no advice babe just embrace it xx

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31 with a 7 week old 🤷🏾‍♀️

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I’m 38yrs and 25 weeks with baby number 5 last baby 10 years ago
I have no advice apart from sleep when u need to my old body is struggling this time 😂

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I'm 36 and 22 weeks pregnant. Had my last baby 9 years ago.

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I was 34 when I was pregnant with my first.
👉Stay active, even if it’s just a 30 min walk. It made a huge different to my energy levels when I was active.
👉 Pregnancy pillow
👉 Vitamins

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37 weeks pregnant with baby no1 at age 36 :) just wasn't the right time before now for us. Excited and nervous and planning on fully winging it 😬

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Baby number one at 30, number 2 at 31 ☺️ the second time around I definitely moved more (walked 10,000 steps a day up until my third trimester until ligament pain made me lessen than that to 5,000) and took a yoga class. It honestly made such a difference!

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Had my first baby last year at 32. Never really thought about it as older but I suppose it is 😆

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33 with a 7 week old, all good here, probably just feel more confident and settled in myself, I can't imagine having a baby any earlier, glad I got my parting/travelling in in my 20's! Batch cook as much as you can before! Don't be afraid to ask for help xx

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Yes I was 32 I think wen i was pregnant with my daughter and now im 34 now xx

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Yeah I'm 33 will have my little boy just after I turn 34- at least we lived our 20s to the max, I think it's the perfect time to have a baby 😀

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I’m 37 and this is my third baby I’m due today xx

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Baby #1 at 35! Enjoyed my pregnancy except for the last 2 weeks lol

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I’m 40 and gave birth to my first little boy 10 weeks ago and I am feeling fabulous after 5 years of ttc it finally happened 🙏🏼
My advice is keep active, eat well and enjoy! Xx

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I'm 34 now but will be 35 when I deliver my first. I mentioned to my doctor that I wanted the harmony test as I will be classified as an older mum and all the reading I had done recommended it. She told me I am the average age she sees now and not worry too much about my age.

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Why's that?

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I had baby number 5 at 39...2 weeks before I turned 40!
This pregnancy was a lot harder on me then my other ones.
Just rest when you need to and give yourself Grace when needing to.

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I gave birth at 36, I'm now 37 with a 4 month old ☺️ he is my 3rd X

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FTM 34 and 37+4. I feel like 30s are the new 20s and as along as you’re living a healthy lifestyle (mind, body AND soul), this is the perfect time for us to welcome motherhood since all the partying and poor decision-making is out of our system 😂 we are also much wiser, confident and sure of ourselves. So despite what is said about giving birth in your 30s, its more commonplace and our babies are born healthy and strong!

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I did. 30 when pregnant had him at 31. It was a little different than in my 20s and with it being my 4th it starts to effect different things because I've had kids before. For me it was my legs. They were really hard to pick up when I was laying down. Like I could life them onto the couch. And my knees hurt. It was the weitest pregnancy out of all of them. But he's fine and I'm back to normal now. Other then my own personal stuff there was nothing baby wise that was off or different. Just keep up the physical activity like walking or even riding a bike (I did until my tummy was too big haha)

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Gave birth to all my babies in my 30s. The prgnancies all went smoothy

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I had my son at 36

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Baby #1 at 42. Now pregnant with baby #2 at 44. I’ll be 45 when I have this baby in a few months. ❤️
Mostly love being an older mom.

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I had my first at 32 and I will be 35 when I have our second. Currently 9 weeks.

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39, and getting induced tomorrow

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My baby girl is 8 weeks old, and I’ve just turned 36. It’s great being a parent later on, as you can get all the hand-me-downs from other friends or family who already had children! It saves loads of money.

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I was 36 when i had my first baby he was 1 yesterday and im planning my next one this year

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First time mom here. My baby is 5 1/2 months. I am 36! I feel totally fine, even tho doctors consider this age to be “advanced maternal age” lol I am so happy to have a baby in my 30s 😊

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Thanks everyone, these responses are so encouraging

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Second baby was at 35. Same with earlier pregnancy—stay hydrated and active. I did walks daily, and my delivery ended up being faster the second time than with my first. I think maybe I was a little more tired this time around, but I blame working as a teacher full time and having a busy 7 year old.

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I had my first at 33 and am so happy it was in this stage of life. I graduated college and traveled abroad in my 20s and have the financial freedom to hire an overnight nanny if needed (from developing my career earlier). It would have been a totally different experience had I done this when I was younger. It’s different for everyone and there’s pros and cons to both but for ME, I am happy I started later. 😁

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11w pregnant with my first at 40! Aside from fatigue, I've felt great! I definitely wish I hadn't waited so long, but we tried for a while and eventually did IVF. If you can afford it, maybe look in to freezing your eggs. Then it won't matter if you wait a little while because your eggs will forever be 30 :)

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Anyone have this happen before?

We were not trying to conceive, used protection and had sex on week 2 of my cycle (accidentally on my peak ovulation day). Week 3 we had Flu A. Week 4 my period did not come (it’s very regular). I tested and it was negative (2 different brands).
What should have been week 2 of my next cycle (now 6 weeks post last period), I had light red/ pink spotting for one day when I wiped. The following week, I tested again, still negative, but this time almost all the dye was in the negative space, which I’ve never seen happen before. The area where it shows one horizontal line for negative and a plus sign for positive, the horizontal line was super faded at the 3 minute mark, and the negative vertical line in the next window was VERY dark. Now I’m on week 8 of all this, period did not show up yesterday. Nothing in my life has changed (no additional stress, no other illness, no changes in diet or exercise, etc).

Has anyone gone through this and NOT been pregnant? I’m super nervous as we thought we were done having kids.

PS. I know I should go get a blood test, does anyone know if urgent care will do that? I’m past being convinced by a pee test.

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Am I pregnant?

I lightly spotted almost 5 days ago, which is not common for me before my period.
My period was supposed to come today. I should have tested in the morning but its 5:30pm.
Is there a second line??

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Is it normal to test positive still? (Wouldn't usually do one)

Not the best pic and clearer in person. Is this normal? I've not had any sex since having my LO but I've had strong cravings, sense of smell is strong and my hair still hasnt started to fall out. Im 7 weeks pp so 🤷‍♀️ I wouldnt normally bother testing but with those symptoms that I never really have its like whats going on. Cravings for something very specific too and can only get from KFC now 😩 so its annoying

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Can baby mamas be friends?

My son has an older brother from his biodad. Biodad has never had contact with my son. One thing lead to another though and the other child's mother and I got in contact and are planning a meeting for the boys. Biodad has no idea any of this has happened. Biodad also hasnt had contact with the other child in about 2 years. Just thoughts, opinions, anyone been through something similar?
Edit-Thank you all! Have definitely been feeling somewhat weird about it because we never met before but now know it can be a good thing definitely helps. I can't wait for them to meet. My son has been asking for a brother and I can now happily tell him he has one. That just happens to be 13. Im sorry for yall that fight/have issues with the other baby mamas. Sadly some women rather be stuck on the men, when the kid is the one who really matters. They're the ones that end up getting hurt and missing out.

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Ovulation test

Please please someone clarify if this test is positive. Im pretty sure it is but Im in disbelief at the minute I haven’t ovulated in 8 months. I feel like crying lol. When is the best time to have sex?

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Ovulation test

I know this group is for pregnancy test but just want to double check this ovulation test is positive. I haven’t had a positive ovulation test in months and months I think Im gonna cry. When is best to have sex after a positive ovulation test and how likely is it to get pregnant?

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