Friends postpartum

People are SO interested and excited when you’re pregnant and have a newborn. After three months, the thrill wanes. My friends aren’t really there to help, they’re there to cuddle. There’s no longer the village it takes to raise an infant. Just mom and dad and maybe hired help. You have to pay people to care about your baby unless they have babies themselves. It’s disappointing because I love my friends. I never knew how to be there for a mom, never knew I HAD to. So I get it. Just didn’t realize you’d lose your non mom friends, in a way, when you became a mom. Anyone else?

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2 years ago

I'll be your mum friend I love your outift !!

2 years ago

I'm just here to say this picture is lovely.

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2 years ago

Aww ty!! 🥰😊

2 years ago

very well said. its lonely be pregnant and looking after a baby. chin up girl. youve got this

2 years ago

I think a lot of people are just not good with babies until they've had one. Everything about a baby can make a person uncomfortable. The breastfeeding, the crying, the diapers, the rocking and swaying, all the luggage everywhere you go. They have no idea what to do and probably feel dickish since they would be no help to you while you're struggling with the baby lol it makes sense like you said we've all been there pre-baby but it's hard! Some friends will stick around. And definitely seek out mom friends! It will be helpful anyway when your baby gets older and can run around with your friend's kids.

2 years ago

I feel you sooooo much! When I got pregnant with my daughter almost three and half years ago I lost a lot of friends! People don’t understand how lonely it can get after having babies until they go through it. I honestly can say I have two close friends who I have been still in touch since being pregnant the first time two more have been in touch my phone because they live in another country. And in my case husband is no help he broke my heart weeks ago when I told him he never listens to my conversations and his respond was “it’s just you talk to much” so my only two closest friends are my two kids who I’m home with all day. I am more than happy to be your friend, we might not live in the same state but I’m always a message away.

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2 years ago

Aww, your babies are your besties 🤍 the world needs more people like you!