Is your child the priority?
I saw a post where the mother complained how people don’t understand how hard it is to go outside and have a meal with others etc because her toddler has a routine. She would have to pack food, toys, nappies etc and try to figure out nap time whilst outside so staying home is much easier. We all know what it’s like when your child misses their nap and then nighttime becomes a nightmare. Everything is out of routine. It affects the toddler. I’m assuming that mums who are always out and about all day long, have a toddler who goes with the flow and nap anywhere, eats anything and isn’t overstimulated? Personally mine seems to have a hard time in new places and new faces and enjoys her routine and comfort at home. For me, she is the priority but other mothers are saying that it’s wrong and the child should work around them, otherwise they wouldn’t be able to do anything. In my head, I’ve just accepted that until she goes to school, I’m going to be in mummy mode 24/7 for the next few years. I don’t see myself enjoying being outside if my girl is upset and tired. How do you do it?
Coming to a realization
At the age of 33, I realize I may never truly get my happy ending or experience the love I deserve in this life. To summarize… my childhood was a mess, I have no real relationship with my family, no friends to call and laugh/vent with, my spouse is emotionally unavailable most days and is starting to feel more like a “cousin” than a relationship since he is my Childs father. My life is the endless routine of waking up, working from home, doing schoolwork and going to bed. My 4 year old is the best thing that has ever happened to me and is the only highlight in each day. He makes mommy feel seen, loved, and appreciated. I think I will find my happiness in making him happy.
?4 month regression
I need to know I’m not the only one going through this 😂
My boy is 14 weeks old and I’ve had it EASY. The last few weeks we’ve been in the routine of bed & bottle by 9/9.30 and he was waking at around 4/5am for a feed then back to sleep until 9am ish. This last week has been a nightmare, he’s not been napping unless they’re contact naps, usually I could pop him in his Moses or his swing and he’d fall asleep, or it’d start as a contact nap then I could transfer him. ATM as soon as I transfer him he’s waking up and screaming. He’s crying whenever I put him down (he just wants to be stuck to me) even on his play mat he’s only last about 5 mins on it before he’s crying and wants to be held.
On a night, he’s crying when I lay him flat in my arms to get him off to sleep for about 5 mins before he’s settled & falling to sleep. Before I could just put him in his cot awake and he’d fall asleep. Then he’s waking up at around 2/3am and crying solely because he wants to be in bed with me - he’s not hungry and his nappy isn’t dirty. I try to put him back in his cot asleep and he’s having none of it so the last few nights we’ve literally had to co-sleep from around 3am otherwise he just won’t sleep!
Does this sound like the 4 month regression? If so, how long does it last? Will it ever go back to how it was before? And what can I do to help him?! I don’t want to get into the habit of co-sleeping for that long in the night. Usually he ended up in bed with me from around 7am until 9am so I could get a few hours and I was ok with that but 3am-9am is a long time and I get so worried about him being in bed with me that I’m gonna squash or suffocate him
