My son is 2.5yo and can speak, but I don’t think he’d understand the situation. We haven’t even really discussed COVID with him. We just started staying home and he went with it without any issues. 🤷🏼♀️
I'm glad I came across this thread as I was discussing this with friends last night, 2 of which are POC, and also are teachers. We all have 4 year olds, and I asked at what age would they discuss racism with your children ( as teachers I felt they might know how best to approach and when) and they both said they do not plan to discuss it for a few reasons including
- they honestly did not feel it was an issue, they felt they had never encountered any racial prejudice living in London, so they felt it was unlikely that their children would.
- they felt by raising it as a potential issue, it would put their children 'on their guard' and make them more anxious of people of other races, which may in turn lead to them subconsciously mixing only with children of the same skin colour as them, which they did not want
So this made me confused to if and when best to discuss
Wow that’s amazing!
My children are 5 and 3 and 8 months. The extent of their attention span is ABCs and LOL dolls.
I’m not actively avoiding it. If something pops up, I have no problem explaining what they are seeing or hearing. Mines more of a if it comes up or they see it I’ll say something. But for a 5 year old, they really don’t know the difference between black and white and I want it to stay that way as long as possible.
Also note: I didn’t say “color blind.” I meant they judge kids based on their character not their skin color
I sat my big kids (10 and 8) down the other day and talked about what is happening is our country currently, but we do talk about racism often. Living in Georgia, we are not far removed from racist people.
I told them what happened to George Floyd and that things like this have happened too many times. People are hurt and angry and want change. We talked about how easy it is to say that we “aren’t racist” rather than doing the hard work of finding the ugly things within us that are, in fact, racist. That as white people, we can do things without someone being suspicious of our intentions, but black people don’t get to have that. They are just living their lives and others are suspicious of them with no reason other than the color of their skin.
My girls are so emotionally aware and sensitive. They cried a lot during this conversation, but it needed to be talked about.
My big kid is a white, middle class boy. If we, as his parents, don’t actively teach him about race, discrimination, institutionalized racism, and social inequality; then who will? They certainly aren’t teaching it in school. He certainly is not going to experience racial discrimination first hand. I refuse to raise a child that grows up to be oblivious to the plight of others.
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