Postpartum Depression/Anxiety

A few weeks ago (3 weeks to the day to be exact) my wife asked for a divorce. She indicated that our marriage could not be saved from her perspective, which was honestly shocking to hear at 6 months pregnant. We obviously don’t have all the right parts so getting pregnant for us is an incredibly intentional act that we agreed on and we’re so happy when we found out our embryo stuck in December. I begged her to go to therapy and even though she didn’t want to go, she showed up. I’m now 29 weeks and we’ve officially had our first therapy session. From what I gathered from our first session, it all comes back to my PPD and post partum mania (if that is even a thing?) that lasted about a year after giving birth. It did significant damage on our marriage because not only did she have to take care of a newborn but she had to take care of me and I was in no position to help myself (I.e go to therapy or medicate)

Has anyone else had a severe PPD experience and been able to heal the impact on your marriage?

I’m doing everything I can now to prepare for baby’s arrival: In individual therapy, starting and SSRI at 32 weeks, connecting with my OBs social worker.

I wish things could have been different but I also can’t go back and change it. It feels like I’m being defined and punished for the worst period of my entire life and I get the sense she’s just not able to look past it.

I suppose I’m struggling because no matter what, this baby is coming. I’m worried that even if I’m 95% better mentally this go around, it won’t matter to her.

I just wish there was some grace and understanding. Marriage is for better or worse and this was the worse.

It is definitely not fair what I put on her but I also feel like if roles were reversed, I would not be asking for a divorce. 😞

I just want to fix us and prove to her that I’m doing everything I can to make our future not like our past, but she’s definitely in that too little too late mindset.

Anyone else with a similar experience that came out on the other side stronger with their partner? I’m 1000% committed to healing our marriage and still want to grow old and grey together. I can’t change what happened, all I can do is look forward and make intentional changes to make us stronger.

I have really bad OCD/anxiety. And I’m just so tired. I wish my mind would just shut off. What’s it like to have a quiet mind? 😔

Hi mommas! I’m 7 weeks PP and was feeling fine up until the end of my first PP period which was last week. Ever since I’ve had very bad anxiety and panic attacks which I haven’t had in over a year. Has this happened to anyone else? Where anxiety got bad after your first period

I wanna start out by saying heavy trigger warning. For the past 2 months I’ve had very recurring thoughts that someone is going to break into my house. It’s gotten to the point where I have a plan for if someone does. It’s terrible and I don’t even want to be home alone. I do have anxiety previous to having my baby but it was never this bad. Is this a form of postpartum anxiety?

To start this out I have an appointment with a therapist but it’s a month out. I have started to feel very depressed and out of contact with everything. I love my 3mo so much and am so happy to have her but i’m exhausted. i don’t want to hold her. i don’t want to wake up to feed her. i don’t want to do anything but stay in bed and be alone. i feel like such a failure and im constantly disappointing myself. i can barely keep my house clean anymore and im struggling to remember to eat or drink water. i feel so exhausted and overwhelmed and i don’t know how to handle it.