PPD Impact on Your Marriage

A few weeks ago (3 weeks to the day to be exact) my wife asked for a divorce.
She indicated that our marriage could not be saved from her perspective, which was honestly shocking to hear at 6 months pregnant.
We obviously don’t have all the right parts so getting pregnant for us is an incredibly intentional act that we agreed on and we’re so happy when we found out our embryo stuck in December.
I begged her to go to therapy and even though she didn’t want to go, she showed up.
I’m now 29 weeks and we’ve officially had our first therapy session.
From what I gathered from our first session, it all comes back to my PPD and post partum mania (if that is even a thing?) that lasted about a year after giving birth.
It did significant damage on our marriage because not only did she have to take care of a newborn but she had to take care of me and I was in no position to help myself (I.e go to therapy or medicate)

Has anyone else had a severe PPD experience and been able to heal the impact on your marriage?

I’m doing everything I can now to prepare for baby’s arrival: In individual therapy, starting and SSRI at 32 weeks, connecting with my OBs social worker.

I wish things could have been different but I also can’t go back and change it.
It feels like I’m being defined and punished for the worst period of my entire life and I get the sense she’s just not able to look past it.

I suppose I’m struggling because no matter what, this baby is coming.
I’m worried that even if I’m 95% better mentally this go around, it won’t matter to her.

I just wish there was some grace and understanding.
Marriage is for better or worse and this was the worse.

It is definitely not fair what I put on her but I also feel like if roles were reversed, I would not be asking for a divorce. 😞

I just want to fix us and prove to her that I’m doing everything I can to make our future not like our past, but she’s definitely in that too little too late mindset.

Anyone else with a similar experience that came out on the other side stronger with their partner?
I’m 1000% committed to healing our marriage and still want to grow old and grey together.
I can’t change what happened, all I can do is look forward and make intentional changes to make us stronger.

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Fucked off

I don’t feel like I’m a good mum, I cannot stand my child clinging onto me/screaming I literally want to smack my head against a wall every time she makes that screeching noise I am seriously exhausted and I have no help whatsoever.

Pet Lovers

I just found out some bad news yesterday. My babygirl of 14 years has cancer. They found three large masses inside her. I am so devastated. I know i have to put her down but she is still acting like herself. Jumping on and off the bed/counter, eating and drinking.

I just dont know what to do or when to do it. How do I know when its time? She doesn't seem to be in any pain or anything. Vet said that chemo would be hard on her since she's lost weight and is fragile and her age.

I guess I'm making this post for any and all advice on when to know its time to put her down..

Ive lost my patience

I am only 12 weeks but I fell like ive lost my patience with my 15 month old, all day long im just constantly telling her off for hitting the tv, climbing on the back of the sofa to get to the window, throwing things at the cat and laughing. Im not enjoying being with her and that sounds horrible 😢

Im not enjoying my pregnancy in the first place and feeling exhausted everyday aswel cause my daughter is sleeping in our bed every night as she cries the moment i get near her cot 😢

Im just feeling lost

Help…Normal tantrum or something more?

My daughter is having the worst meltdowns recently. I’m talking to the point where people are starting to stop outside my house and looking in with concern. The anxiety and humiliation leaving the house sometimes is exhausting. Kicking and screaming at the top of her voice in public and having everyone in the street looking at me, is a different kind of embarrassment and guilt. I’ve had a few conversations recently with various people about seeing someone professional about mt daughter’s behaviour. She’s also started using noises and moans to gesture what she wants, coming from an incredibly smart 3 year old who has been speaking full sentences since she was two. We have regressed in verbal communication, and the meltdowns are getting so horrifically bad. She also tugs at her clothes when distressed or pulls on her fingers. There is absolutely ZERO reasoning with her when she is like this, it’s just constant screaming. I’m a first time mum and just at a complete loss.

Baby isn’t pooing

Hi everyone, I’m looking for a bit of advice/reassurance from anyone who’s experienced something similar.

My baby girl is 8 days old and I’m currently combination feeding, breastfeeding, expressed milk and formula. I’ve really been trying to establish breastfeeding over the last couple of days, but it’s been a struggle since she was born.

She hasn’t had a poo for about a day and a half, and I’m wondering whether this could mean she isn’t getting enough milk directly from me. I’ve been giving expressed milk and formula this afternoon so I can keep an eye on exactly how much she’s taking.

She seems otherwise completely well — her temperature is fine, she’s feeding every few hours, sleeping well between wake windows, isn’t showing any obvious discomfort and her tummy isn’t hard.

I’ve already spoken to the midwife about it a couple of days ago and I’ll be speaking to them again tomorrow morning, but I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s experienced something similar, especially with it being overnight. ❤️

For my boy mamas, i dont know if this is normal or not but both my boys (4 and 2) are constantly touching eachothers pvt part and laughing and saying penis penis, ive told them off many times and said you cant do that but they wont stop.

I know for them its a joke but im worried what is it turns into something that isnt funny one day. Is this normal?