PPD Impact on Your Marriage

A few weeks ago (3 weeks to the day to be exact) my wife asked for a divorce.
She indicated that our marriage could not be saved from her perspective, which was honestly shocking to hear at 6 months pregnant.
We obviously don’t have all the right parts so getting pregnant for us is an incredibly intentional act that we agreed on and we’re so happy when we found out our embryo stuck in December.
I begged her to go to therapy and even though she didn’t want to go, she showed up.
I’m now 29 weeks and we’ve officially had our first therapy session.
From what I gathered from our first session, it all comes back to my PPD and post partum mania (if that is even a thing?) that lasted about a year after giving birth.
It did significant damage on our marriage because not only did she have to take care of a newborn but she had to take care of me and I was in no position to help myself (I.e go to therapy or medicate)

Has anyone else had a severe PPD experience and been able to heal the impact on your marriage?

I’m doing everything I can now to prepare for baby’s arrival: In individual therapy, starting and SSRI at 32 weeks, connecting with my OBs social worker.

I wish things could have been different but I also can’t go back and change it.
It feels like I’m being defined and punished for the worst period of my entire life and I get the sense she’s just not able to look past it.

I suppose I’m struggling because no matter what, this baby is coming.
I’m worried that even if I’m 95% better mentally this go around, it won’t matter to her.

I just wish there was some grace and understanding.
Marriage is for better or worse and this was the worse.

It is definitely not fair what I put on her but I also feel like if roles were reversed, I would not be asking for a divorce. 😞

I just want to fix us and prove to her that I’m doing everything I can to make our future not like our past, but she’s definitely in that too little too late mindset.

Anyone else with a similar experience that came out on the other side stronger with their partner?
I’m 1000% committed to healing our marriage and still want to grow old and grey together.
I can’t change what happened, all I can do is look forward and make intentional changes to make us stronger.

in our community

When did you circumcise your baby?
If you DID NOT or DO NOT have a circumcised son DO NOT comment this post is not for you!

Did you wait a certain amount of time or have it done immediately?
Again respectfully, this is only for the parents who choose to do so.
opinions about how not necessary it is will not be appropriate for this post. Thank you in advance. 🩵

Vanilla extract

Has anyone used alcohol free vanilla in their babies formal to help them drink?
I’m 100% sure my baby refuses her bottles as she doesn’t like the taste of it!

Just anxious to try it, don’t want her to get used to it and then refuse bottles again after two weeks of using (correct me if I’m wrong but I’ve read you use it for 2 weeks max)

TIA 🙂

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My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Car seat crying

My 6 month old PANICS the second I put him in a car seat and screams, cries, chokes and recently even projectile vomited on a 14 minute drive. It’s gotten to the point I don’t even bring him out unless it’s to a doctors appointment. I’m a stay at home mom with no family in my state and it has been very isolating. We’ve tried 3 different car seats with no improvement. Has anyone had a baby who hated the car seat? Any advice? This started at 3 months. I will add it does seem worse when he’s tired. He does cry on every trip though. He only contact naps and co sleeps so he reaches for me and will not sleep in the car seat.

Sex post C section

Hi ladies I’m 4 weeks 5 days postpartum and I had a C section. I’m not bleeding properly anymore just some brownish discharge stuff that starts on and off. I’d like to do the deed with my partner; is it okay to do so or shall I wait the full 6 weeks. I feel up for it but also worried because the advice is 6-8 weeks.

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.