I feel really alone and scared in this.
My parents are together, with my dad slightly more conservative than my Mum... I already know he is ok with co-parenting but not single parenting.
My abusive partner walked out on me and telling my parents that he was abusive was extremely hard (they had no idea and just sat there in shock listening and not quite understanding how I endured what I did).
For anyone who's experienced trauma bonding, you may understand... there was a lot of back-and-forth after we split, of which I fell pregnant.
When I told him, he blocked me and said never to contact him again.
I told my mum at 10 weeks and she refuses to tell my dad. She said i should put a business plan together to show I'm "capable".
I'm now 16 weeks. My mum hasn't brought up the pregnancy since I told her. I found out the sex today and asked if she wanted to know. She told me that she'd like it to be a surprise. I asked her if she'd like to see some pictures and she was surprised I'd been for a scan and asked if everything (at the scan) came back OK... that was the end of the conversation.
The few friends I've told are excited. I know some other friends will initially be disappointed that I went back... and they won't understand either, but they will get over it (my life, my choices). I feel like my mum is ashamed and based on her response, I feel really unsupported telling my dad.
Has anyone else been in this situation? How did you tell your dad? Or what should I tell him?
Over the years, I've seen people proudly announce their baby's gender. My mum announced last week, at the dinner table, that my cousin is having in January (she would know I'm due around then too). And here I am not sure if it's my insecurities and why i feel sad or not valid to celebrate...
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