Domestic Abuse Survivors

I feel like I’m living in fear since leaving my ex. It’s been like 8 months of separation with a domestic abuse restraining order of him wanting to kill me. I have full custody of our daughter as well. He has schizophrenia as well. Moral of the story I feel like I’m living in fear since leaving. If I receive a friend request and a message from someone that seems off I think I’m being set up. I’m scared to date someone new bc I don’t want him to come after me or them. I feel alone in my feelings. He supposedly moved out of state but I’m so paranoid still..

Hi I recently as in a few months ago moved hours away with my baby to get away from a horrible situation with her father this is my first baby and it’s hard knowing I can’t ever fully escape him he wants to be in our daughters life but he will just make it worse for her idk how he can’t see that I wish he would just leave us alone and go away

Anyone has experience of abusive relationship? My partner is alcoholic person, he lies about going to therapy to go to pub than come home drunk, arguing with me, calling me bitch, he has called our daughter bitch too. He also has being messaging a lot women's as he said I have no time to him because we have a twins 2 years old. He likes to intimidate me because I am not British citizen also I have no family here to help me. He said he wants take my kids from me than I can go back to my country. Has anyone experienced asking Woman aid help with accomodation ? How was your experience? Thank you

Hey everyone so i know i probably wont get much help by doing this but im a stay at home mom to my 1 year old boy. Ive been in a relationship with his father for 2 years and the whole relationship has been extremely toxic and violent . I got a plane ticket and it was for today at 5 am and i tooked it up and he got into my email and cancelled it so now ive got nothing . I was going to my moms to finish my ged and get a job so i can get on my feet and give my kid a better life . Theres a ticket i can get for 20$ in 13 days but im not asking for 20$ im asking for any bit of help please. Im only 20 and my bd is 30, im just trying to leave im not safe nor is my son. i have no family i grew up in foster care .

Our daughter was teething and unwell. I’d done all the childcare that day while he recovered from drinking the day before. Around bedtime, I asked him to sit with her for about five minutes while I ate and got her things ready. Even during that short time he seemed visibly agitated and stressed just being alone with her.

Later, while bathing her, she started crying and having a typical toddler tantrum. He became increasingly frustrated and started shouting. He then picked her up in a towel and tried to get into the bedroom. Instead of letting me open the door, he repeatedly kicked it while holding her. I asked him several times to stop and let me open it. But he wouldnt let me and kicked the door through. The door latch broke, wood splintered, and metal was exposed from the force.

After this i asked him to give our daughter to me and go take some time. He physically blocked me from taking her and aggressivly shoved my arms away while she was crying and reaching for me. He later said that i was oblivious and he'd done that to get her to the bed safely as he nearly dropped her in the bathroom and that what he did was the safest thing and his only option (it's rubbish he lost his temper and was aggressive and looking for something to break) this isn't the first time he's thrown things, broken things or punched objects in a temper.

When I pointed out there were at least three safer options (hand her to me, put her down safely, or let me open the door), he minimised it and said he hadn’t kicked the door through, that he was just trying to open it with his foot and it was an accident. The damage doesn’t reflect that — it was clearly forceful. (See picture)

Later that evening, instead of apologising, he messaged me saying “I don’t want to be here anymore” (implying suicide), then deleted it. This is something he’s done before during conflict.

Since I’ve left, he has continued to justify his behaviour rather than take responsibility.

I feel confused because he says he was panicking and trying to keep her safe, but from where I was standing, his behaviour felt aggressive, unsafe, and escalating. I’m struggling with self-doubt and would really appreciate hearing from others who have experienced similar minimisation or justification after frightening behaviour. I've reported him to the police today but I'm terrifed of what happens next. Help!