Am I The Asshole? (AITA)

I have recently got overwhelmed & fed up by my families unsolicited advice, comments about me and my parenting and/or the fact that no-one makes effort with me anymore.

Just had a 45 minute argument with my mum, because she thinks im being 'overly sensitive' about what people are saying to me.

Here are some of the comments/advice that have been said:

You should put her down more, so you can get housework done (Housework is done when she is playing)

You'll make a rod for your own back (sleeps perfectly in next to me at night, contact naps in the day)

Its not all about you, you need to be more considerate towards other people

I couldnt let a child rule my life like that (shushing her to sleep)

You're too anal (The fact that I want people to know and follow her daytime routine)

Ive had kids and it was much harder for me cause my husband didnt help and I had two of them

You need to put her in the car seat more so she doesnt cry (cant do long journeys atm, but we still do car trips 3x times a week)

There are more but you get the gist. And its every conversation about my LG that someone has something to add or they assume we're not doing something even though we are.

Ive had this ever since she was born, and most recently my sister (who normally is very supportive etc) has joined the crowd and said some pretty hurtful things

I lost it on Sunday, cried for most of the day and have pretty much cried every day since then

Every time I speak with someone about it, I'm being told to just let it go, to not let it get to me, to not be so sensitive.

Now my mother has basically said that she thinks I'm depressed instead of considering the fact that other people are in the wrong by constantly commenting about things they have absolutely no knowledge about 🙄

So what does everyone else think, should I just let things go, am I being overly sensitive and taking things personally or am I justified in how I feel?

I'm a ftm, 22, (first time mom), and my biological mother, 48, whom i live with, has hvs (herpes). My daughter is almost 5 months old now, and i know kissing on the cheek should be fine for other adults, but my mom is not the cleanest person, and is often sick. I feel guilty to keep telling her "shes too young for kisses" like i say with her dad's parents, but theyre begging me to kiss her too. How do i even explain to them the situation without leaking my mom's status? How do i explain to her, that i don't and wont ever feel comfortable with her kissing my baby? Its easier for me to say I'm not into kisses, because i have contamination OCD (i hate touching, sharing drinks, sharing food, touching people's bodies or fluids, etc), but for my baby, there isn't really a "fun cover up" disorder for me to pretend she has, so that no kisses are had.

My baby is perfectly healthy, and i know people with hsv CAN share kisses and affection without the worry of spreading it, but my mom is one of those sick people who thinks hsv isnt a big deal, and she shouldnt have to "hide part of who she is from the world"- yes, im eye rolling too. ive explained to her MANY times that i dont feel comfortable with her kissing me or baby, because she doesnt care to treat her bumps, and that it can literally lead to severe brain damage in baby. she does not care or believe me, despite the proof and articles ive shown her. 💀 she takes everything as a personal attack on her as a person, and i dont know how to move past this without killing my daughter !!! i dont know what to do or how to approach this. do i just let her kiss my baby??? what happens if she sees other members of the family kiss the baby knowing she cant? i also cannot move out, or away, as i just dont have the money to, even with me and my husband working. help! what do i do?

So our son had been sick for about a week and over the last almost 72hrs I've had ~7hrs of sleep total (nothing more that 45min at a time). His younger sister had her graduation today and it and hour+ away. After working a full 12hr shift, he stops to shower and leaves again. Am I an asshole cuz i think he should be at home with us? Especially given i called him, not even 2 hours after he left for work, breaking down so bad, boy whining and screaming in agony and feeling like I got hit by a truck. Haven't felt this drained since the early newborn days while pumping. I feel like us, his family he made, are getting forgotten or don't matter as much as his sister graduating. Now, don't get me wrong, I love this sister of his but it's not like it was ever a question if she would graduate in the first place. Idk I'm just upset and with it being almost 10pm and he still has to drive home, I'm just over it and part of me just want to be like, why don't we matter? Do you not see me struggling so hard to keep my head above water?

This is gonna be long but im gonna try to make it short lol. My sister is 5 years older than me we’ve always been “close” but now that im older i realized i was always there for her and her kids but it was never returned. Since i had my son 12 weeks early she was never really around. One night he had 12+ drops in his heart rate and we were 2 hours away because we wanted to come home for one night. I was 7 days post Csection so i couldnt drive so i asked if she would take me to the hospital because my fiance had to work it he was a contracted nurse so we wanted to save his call ins for absolute emergencies so when i asked her she said she would ask her fiance an hr goes by i dont hesr from her so i double text she says she is too stoned to drive so i said thats fine ill drive but i need someone to be with me it was midnight and she said no. So my fiance ended up calling in. Fwd to last year my car battery died and i was trying to sell it she wanted it so i agreed. It came time for her to make a payment and she said she is unable to then offered to give the car back i said no. Then a few weeks later she lost her job so i asked if she would be able to pay me for the car she said yes but offered to give the car back so at that point i figured it would be best to get it back. I told her to let me know how much the battery was on the car (we tried replacing it before she took the car but she said no) she again said not to worry about it. I told her im sorry and that i love her. Few weeks later she is ranting in fb posting things hinting that she was suicidal. So i tex her, nothing, i keep texting/calling and nothing. Then i finally get ahold of her fiance and he tells me she is fine. I told her its not fair for her to do stuff like that and not atleast let hs know she is okay. She starts to rant about it wasnt fair that i took the car back (though she offered to give it back 2x) and that i didnt pay her back for the battery ( i did i even asked her fiance how much it was he never responded) we dont talk for a week then my mom tells me she is crying saying she misses me and my son so we patch things up. Since i brought my son home from the hospital she flakes on me non stop. Half the time she doesnt even tell me she isnt coming anymore just ignores me. For my moms birthday i invited them both over for lunch she come for like 20 mins then had to leave because her dog got out she said she would come back. Then not even 3 mins after she left she tells my mom she isnt coming back when she texted me an hr later saying she isnt coming and that it will be nice for me and my mom to get time together i said “it would have been nice for it to be all 3 of us but thats okay. So fwd AGAIN 😂 to today i asked my mom if she would watch my son while i went to my birthday dinner she said she can but should would have to take him to my sisters for my nephews birthday party..i was not invited because “we were not on good terms and i guilt tripped her into staying at my house the last time she came over” i blocked her. Am i wrong for that? Has anyone cut ties with a sibling?

AITA: fiance laughing at my smile

Hi so i(23 f) have a really awkward smile, I have done since I was a kid, well tonight me and my fiance (24 M) was downstairs with my mum looking at old photos of me, when my mum and fiance started laughing about my awkward smile, my fiance said I’d need to go to a “smile camp” to learn how to smile, or that they’d need to edit my photos so my smile is less awkward, I was laughing because I was too awkward to say anything. We then come upstairs and I’m quiet because it’s really fucked my head up, my fiance is now in a mood with me for “dragging it out” when it’s only happened today, he’s stormed downstairs and is now sleeping on the sofa in a mood with me…..

AITA????