Healing Mamas with Notyouraveragethrpst

Hello! I recently had a tragedy, i had a missed miscarriage. Essentially my baby died but i was still pregnant and needed medication to complete the miscarriage. It was hard but i had support. This experience made me realize that i desperately need to take better care of myself. Intentionally or not, i was raised to put everyone else's needs above my own. I have classic oldest daughter syndrome. I was just as much a parent to my siblings as i was a sister. Been trying to get into my divine feminine energy because I've been in survival mode for most of my life. Part of me really needs to live a softer life and learn to be taken care of a bit. Part of achieving that goal means getting in touch with my emotions, which as mentioned earlier, i have a habit of either hiding or suppressing. I've been doing inner child work, journaling, talking to a therapist etc. Would be cool to make some friends who maybe i can talk to who get it. My poor husband can only handle so much of my childhood trauma at a time. 😁 He's doing a good job tho and stepping up a bit more so i can rest and have time for selfcare. Attached are some of the books I'm working through.

The thing we don’t talk enough about as moms Is that the world keeps moving forward, our kids lives keep moving forward, despite anything that we are going through and how hard that is.

This week I lost a very close friend to cancer. It was fast and it was sudden and my heart is broken. But I realize that I can’t sit in my grief like I would before kids. Because he still needs a bath or a snack or a book being read to him.

So I’m just here to normalize that it’s freaking hard to grieve while being a parent

As a mom who is on a healing journey and trying to over come childhood traumas as well as trying to break the cycle of your parents parenting, how do you work with your partner when they aren't trying to heal from their childhood traumas? How do you work together as parents but don't parent the same?

How amazing!! 21 humans who are working to heal!

I’ll go first!

I’m kristen or as some of you on social media may know me as @notyouraveragethrpst and I live in Maine!

I’m a mom to a 4 year old red headed little boy with autism and I’m working on healing my parental wounds while navigating parenting. Some days are better than others but I have to remember to give myself Grace.

I love cooking, doing Pinterest crafts and scrolling tiktok for hours!

So tell me a little about you!

How are things going this week??