Divorced/Separated/Single Mamas

What should I do, my child is 10 coming upto 11 years old she’s always not liked going to her dads since being a toddler but when her dad and new partner had another baby in 2017 it progressively got worse she loved it at first until the child reached 4/5 years of age. And now she completely HATES going she cry’s before going and she’s very angry when she returns on the Sunday she’s expressively said it’s not her had but how the dynamic is with her half sister. She constantly asks me to lie and make things up for her not to go on weekends she’s told him once she did not want to go and he made her feel awful about it so she doesn’t like speaking to him about things.

I’m unsure what I can do without upsetting dad or daughter because he will definitely have a word with her if I was to say anything but on the other hand I’m soo fed up of seeing how unhappy my child is when it comes to going there.

I’m so sorry if this isn’t the best place or inappropriate to share.. but I need advice. Please.

my BF (M-35) and I (F-35), found out 3 months ago I was a couple of weeks pregnant.. before I get into that ordeal, some background.. we’ve only been together for a year now, and he’s all I have. I cut my extremely toxic family 3 years ago and he has never left me stranded, never left me like the people closest to me have. I bring this up to say (or make excuses), but he gets extremely violent and disrespectful when intoxicated. From disrespecting me in front of strangers, physically dragging me out in public places, pushing me in the car when I try to run away to prevent a scene… to actually ending up in the hospital back in January, with 3 broken ribs, shattered orbital bone, concussions, swollen shut black eyes, and I couldn’t open my mouth fully so for two weeks I had nothing but liquids. He was so scared of going to jail that he didn’t let his sister take me to the hospital until 20 hours after, and by then it was too late for the doctors to stitch my eyelid and lip back closed, so I see the scars to this day. I had nowhere to go so I had to recover next to him daily and not once did he bring it up, let alone apologize. He hasn’t done anything that extreme again, but he’s very rough physically.. throw me back in a room, push me in the car, physically block me from leaving, pulling me back in the house, all while calling me everything but a child of God. a couple of weeks ago I decided to leave him and I told him this.. while I was sitting down packing, I told him that I wasn’t keeping the baby and he said “good then b****” pushed my head into the wall, and ran out of the empty apartment when he saw me finally calling the police. I actually went through with it and filed a report on him. I was put in a temporary women’s shelter after a couple of weeks and I’ve been jumping around from rooms and group homes. he sends me money or pays for my weekly rent and daily food etc. He knows I’m still pregnant and talks about it so excitedly, and I know that I will have zero support expressing my feelings, concerns, or my choice, which is possibly no longer an option.. which breaks my heart and soul, but also scares me to death. I’ve been putting my body through the most unhealthy pregnancy, I’ve even considered, and seriously came close to drinking bleach. I can’t imagine having his child and being stuck after the hard work and dedication I’ve been putting towards my wellbeing through independence. He knows my every move, always finds me somehow, or knows where or who I’ve been around. I don’t know what to do, I feel like the worst person in the world, and even though I wouldn’t be missed by anyone, and he’d probably be the only person to even notice my absence.. that’s not what I want. I’m terrified to stand up for myself to him, but even if I DID.. I don’t have the resources to even handle it myself. because I won’t have his support. what do I do to help myself? who else can I speak with besides THEE hotline?

Please try not to be too harsh, these past 3 years have been very difficult, making the right decisions has been challenging, and sometimes inevitable. And I know I have no one to blame but myself and the way I responded to the worst of the worst possible betrayal

•I know I was dumb and everything I went through is my fault for allowing it. •I know everyone else would have left or been stronger than to live in fear or feeling stuck. •I was diagnosed with Stockholm syndrome as a teenager and I understand the toxicity within this codependency and abandonment issues I know I have.

TLDR- I am pregnant with a man I fear, (who wants this child) and won’t be supportive or help me out of this.

Idk where to go or what to do. So last month my husband and I got into another one of our lovey heated arguments. My life was threatened and I took my son and left. Its been about three weeks and I've been staying with my mom.

Mom is an hour and half from my job and I'm struggling with the commute. I can't afford to live on my own and don't want to go back to him.

My dad is offering me a place at his second home for cheap. But that's two hours from my husbands home.

Why I'm struggling is because I'm trying to go around his third shift weird schedule so he can see his son. But I feel bad he doesn't get to see him as much now because I left.

He works Wednesday to Friday every other Saturday so he takes our son on his days off.

But this week he works Saturday and picked up Tuesday. :-/ he loves his son but I'm wondering if I should be staying close to my husband (hopefully soon to be ex) or go to my dads and figure stuff out