Baby Daddy Issues

I need to know if this is a valid reason to be mad

Content: I haven't eaten today because the only food left has my allergens in them

I was throwing up stomach acid and then was looking for something that I could possibly eat so I wouldn’t be dizzy

I remembered I had some sunflower seeds so I went to go look for them and couldn’t find them

Mind you they are mine. My BD doesn’t eat the ones with the shells.

When I couldn’t find them, I asked My BD if he knew where they were

And he goes on to tell me oh yeah, I traded them with your uncle for a black and mile

This is not the first time he’s given my things away without even asking, and when I brought that up to him, all he had to say was “my bad “

So is this a reasonable crash out and would you be mad if somebody continuously gives away your things without asking for their own benefit?

I named my baby boy Ace and his Daddy doesn't like the name because he claims that I named him after the Hardware store lol but I wasn't thinking about the store, I was thinking about the Ace Of Spades. His daddy wasn't around during my pregnancy wouldn't even come to the hospital to see our baby being born now our son just turned 10months he pop up talking about he wants to change his name. Im not changing his name plus he wasn't around now all of a sudden he popped up trying to change our son name.

I know it seems silly. It isnt weed or drugs but when we met he never smoked. He did not tell me he did previously when we got together. It noe takes over his life and it has changed him. He sneaks about to do it when im around. His mum enables him and actively encourages it. We have 2 children 4 and 10 and I am just so unhappy. He is so aggressive without it but wont try to get help. Say he wants to give up. He swears at me, calls me all names and twlls me to f off and then acts like nothing has happened. I am now at a point I struggle to be around him.

I've been so stressed out with taking care of our daughter, getting her doctor appointments, speech therapy set up, my doctor appointments, my mom's appointments, etc.... and all he thinks about is sex sex sex.... like dude I'm not in the mood I'm stressed to the max with everything, but when I bring up that I'm not in the mood he comes back and he's like it's been x amount of weeks or months and then I'm the bad guy and it feels like he just using me.....

Like how am I supposed to be in the mood when I'm stressed out about everything with our child, my mom, and my appointments

Please tell me how to make my partner realise he is missing half of our daughters life because he is staring at his phone 24.7 !?